#1 avoid injury and infections!
Scrub hands and nails thoroughly with hot soap and water. If you aren’t fluid-bonded, you should ideally be using a latex or nitrile glove. I keep nitrile gloves on hand for everything, and pass on latex since some people are allergic. Trim your nails short, and make sure all the edges are buffed smooth. (I’ve had people with longer manicured nails fist me, but their hands were pretty small, and there was a lot of communication. This is NOT a novice move.)
I’ve been fisted by about 20 people, myself included (yes, you can fist yourself if you’re limber and confident). I’ve been fisted by women, men, queers, hets, cis, trans, bi, Doms, subs, cucks, bulls, partners, and one night stands. I have also fisted other women. You could say I’ve been a busy girl. I really do love my fetish. I’ve been fisted by people with almost all hand sizes.
Because it’s not a common fetish, I’ve had to teach a lot of these people how to fist me. I can say that for the most part, anybody can pull this off. There are bell-curves of course on size differences, and just as you might find a petite person on one end of the spectrum that would not enjoy being fisted by someone big and tall, you will also find petite people that can take anything you throw at them (or, at their vaginas). Remember this is supposed to be PLEASURABLE. When it comes to a woman’s vagina, whatever she says, goes. Period. The main point to remember is that most fists are smaller in circumference than an infant, which most women are capable of passing through their bodies. We should all be able to enjoy fisting, but none of us should feel pressured to.
Unless you are one of those rare birds that likes painful sex, fisting should be approached sensually. Do not rush. Do not take a goal-oriented approach. When a woman is ready she may seem to suck the fist inside her. But, you can’t talk her into it.
Start with a single finger. Then two. Then three. Fuck her with them. Play with all of her spots. Get your digit-al freak on. She should want and enjoy every finger you add. She should be sopping wet. If she’s not asking for more, what are you really trying to accomplish? Once a woman is greedily humping all four of your fingers and half your hand, that’s when she is ready to take more.
To insert the hand, you want to make a duckbill shape. Keep in mind that the knuckles are the widest part of most hands and usually the most intense part of insertion. Your hand should be well-lubed, but GLOB the lube onto your knuckles in particular. Yes, it looks weird to have little hills and peaks of lube balancing precariously on your knuckles, but that’s about the amount that will get the job done. At this point you should be able to feel all the bones that are pressing against your hand (the bones of her pelvis). These aren’t going to move out of your way, so you need to rotate your hand into a position where it can pass between them.
Generally, it’s a good idea to point down at an angle inside her, as if you were moving toward her colon. Everyone is shaped a little differently, so the precise angle will vary, and you should experiment to find the one that works for the pelvis in question. Once your hand has inched all the way inside, you will probably find it wants to curl into a ball (the vagina isn’t super long). Be careful not to scratch her with your nails when you close your hand. Boom, you’re in.
Now what? I can say that the question of fisting technique is thoroughly covered in the FetLife fisting forums. There are many things to try, and far more options exist than can be covered in a single article.
Last but not least: when it’s time to remove your hand, you want to remove it by reversing the path that you used during insertion. It might help if she pushes at the same time. NEVER just yank it out. You could hurt her. If it seems stuck, try to break the suction by inserting a finger of your opposite hand between your inserted hand and her vagina.
Things you may have to deal with:
Accidents can happen. It is normal to get a bit of rug burn from fisting. There will most likely be some swelling after fisting. A small amount of blood that stops rather quickly usually isn’t a big cause for concern. It’s also something that should only happen the first time, or the first time with a bigger hand. If there is a copious amount of blood, or a lot of discomfort, or any visible signs of tearing (LOOK at your pussy), a doctors visit is in order. Just be honest about what happened, smile, ignore the looks of horror, and graciously decline the offer of talking to a trauma/abuse counselor (unless you need to of course!).
I’ve been to the ER a couple times. And to my doctors’ office. These were after an unusually aggressive (consensual) fisting, just to make sure everything was ok. I’ve never needed anything repaired. And, my neighbors haven’t figured out what I’m howling happily about in my bedroom. Medical records are private. I HAVE gotten bacterial infections (hands are dirty! Wash them!) and taken more flagyl than most people do. If you are monogamous, this should be less of an issue.
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