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  • How To Have Fun With A Hitachi

    How To Have Fun With A Hitachi

    Masturbation is Health Care! It is so essential to the mind body and soul. I can’t go a day without it. I feel it is something that is highly underestimated and shamed, but really needs to be on the forefront of physical and mental health. I believe it will boost confidence AND raise your spirituality.

    Advantages Of Using A Hitachi

    Hitachi wands are my favorite toys EVER! It is really intense compared to my fingers. Sometimes I can cum almost instantly with a wand. As opposed to my hands, it can take a bit more effort to reach an orgasm.

    One Common Mistake When Using A Hitachi

    I think since it is so intense, that people may be using too much pressure when playing. Even the wrong angle can take you from pleasure to cringey in just a moment!

    Can One Incorporate A Hitachi Into Sex?

    It certainly can! Rub it on your asshole while a cock is inside you, or better yet, the best spot possible right on the clit during penetration and you will be there in no time.

    Ways To Kink Up Hitachi Play

    It is really hot to get the torturous pleasure from a Hitachi wand by edging, as well as giving up a little control. Guide your partner in using it on you…or if you are solo, sit on it without using your hands. I call that taking it to the next level.


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  • Masturbation With Sex Toys

    Masturbation With Sex Toys

    Masturbation is a wonderful experience! It allows any woman or man to get more familiar with their sexuality. I’ve enjoyed intense sensations and orgasms daily. Masturbation has helped with my overall sexual confidence, and how I view sex as a whole.

    Does Using Sex Toys Make The Experience Different?

    Honestly, it depends on the person. Each person’s experience depends on their mindset and the anatomy. For some people, their body’s makeup will not allow them to use certain toys, and some cannot psychologically use toys to achieve an orgasm. Now, with using toys, you can obtain some that use vibration, or have special additions to the makeup of the toy. With fingers, you have more mobility.

    For me, sex with toys allows me to reach areas comfortably and experience stronger orgasms. When I use my fingers, I am able to squirt. This is because I prefer to play with my G-spot with my fingers.

    What I Love To Use

    I love to use Hitachi wands and I enjoy using my lush.

    Should Every Woman Try A Toy?

    Yes, every woman should at some point try masturbating with a toy. You can never know the true feeling of an orgasm with a toy until you use one. A woman doesn’t necessarily need to own a toy for a long period of time, but she does need the exposure to toys. It widens a woman’s plane of pleasure, or lets a woman know what she likes, and what she doesn’t.

    Tips To Buying The Right Toy

    She should go to different bedroom toy parties, ask friends for their opinion, go to a sex professional, or go to a safe space with someone she trusts where she can experience the toys first hand before she commits to buying one.


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  • How To Have Fun With A Hitachi

    How To Have Fun With A Hitachi

    I believe that masturbation for females isn’t as widely talked about, and is viewed as somewhat embarrassing. I had never masturbated beyond experimentation, until I started making my own amateur videos! Nobody can do it like you can!

    What Turns Me On

    Honestly what makes me the horniest is myself! I love to watch my own content, and pictures of myself. I also love to watch lesbian porn, especially ladies with dicks or the step mom fantasy!

    How I Started Using A Hitachi

    I started using a Hitachi last year after somebody was selling some unused MFC merch online. I hopped on the opportunity, and it’s been my favorite toy ever since! The Hitachi is the best kind of orgasm, especially when paired with penetration. I believe this should be in every vagina owner’s bag!

    Preparation Before I Start

    Whenever I decide that I’m in the mood, I grab it from my drawer. I bring mine everywhere with me! Sometimes I put down a towel because things can get a little messy!

    Favorite Hitachi Technique

    My best tip is to put it on the wave motion on the first or second, the differences in vibration feels amazing! You can never go wrong with the missionary position.


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  • Ways To Have Fun With A Dildo

    Ways To Have Fun With A Dildo

    I’m A LOT more open about masturbation now than I was when I first started out in this kinky industry. Growing up, I went to Catholic schools my entire life so, topics like masturbating and sex were never supposed to be talked about. Masturbating was considered a sin, and to engage in such a nasty act made you impure. One of my most favorite aspects of what I do is discovering what turns people on. I always say “Don’t be shy with me, the kinkier the better!” because I want people to feel comfortable enough with me to share their deepest darkest turn ons!

    I want those that feel they can’t indulge themselves in their guilty pleasures at home (maybe their spouse isn’t supportive of their “fetish”, or maybe they’re still discovering what exactly turns them on). I want them to know they can come to me and together we can explore some kinky things! That’s the beauty of masturbation…. You can indulge yourself alone or, you can include someone else. It’s not just a “dirty sinful act”, it’s so beautiful and much more…it’s discovering your body, discovering your turn on’s and your deepest (perhaps even very dark) desires…masturbation is a very powerful tool in understanding who you are.

    What I Look For In A Dildo

    To be quite honest, I’ve never actually gone to the sex shop and bought myself a sex toy. The ones that I do have were gifts bought for me by my devoted fans. I shop around online and pick back a bunch that I think are interesting and then my fans can pick one they would like me to have and get it off my wishlist. And of course in return they get a video of me using it! This past year one of my lovely fans got me something totally different than what I had ever used before…. It’s called a “real feel” dildo. It feels like I’m touching an actual cock when I hold it in my hand! It was so wild! The only thing that differentiated it from the real thing was that it didn’t throb for me. After experiencing something totally out there like that, I don’t think I could ever go back to just a plain plastic or glass dildo.

    Using A Dildo vs Using One’s Fingers

    Myself, personal preference when I’m masturbating, is to use my fingers. I know the right places to touch exactly right when I’m wanting a more real experience, or when I’m watching porn, I tend to grab for my ‘real feel’ friend. I think it amuses you into the scenario that you’re watching in a more realistic and interactive way.

    Tips To Have An Orgasm With A Dildo

    Hmmm… I’m not sure because everyone is different. I think the most important aspect is to truly be in touch with yourself in order to be able to make yourself orgasm with a dildo.

    Advice For Dildo Anal Play

    Start small! Haha.

    When I first started I started out with a butt plug, a cute little pink thing and I had that for maybe about a year before I moved on to actually using a dildo when it came to doing anal. I’d also suggest using your fingers as well. It’s important to get your body used to it before upgrading to something bigger.

    Ways To Kink Up Masturbation

    There are a zillion and one ways to do this!! This is also one of the main reasons I love my job so much! You could do something kinky like buy a pair of my panties that I’ve worn while I came and then once you receive them, we can cum together. Porn is always a simple, and readily available way to spice things up and also discover new kinks you didn’t know you had!

    The cam world is so big and so diverse that if you can’t find what you’re looking for in porn, you’ll be able to find it in the cam world without a doubt! And more than likely, the cam girl that you find to suit your needs will also offer sexting, or sell videos and photos sets and things like that, that offer you a ton of other outfits and different ways to explore your fantasy!


    Hello, hello my loves!! I am Angelina. I am 24 years old, currently going to a small private college to get my RN degree! I started doing cam when I was 18 years old and still Loving it today! Though now you’d probably hardly guess I’m a country gal at heart, I moved away from the small town in Indiana and lived in a few different cities now. But, don’t get me wrong, I’ll be the first one to throw off my heels and run around in the mud! Haha. Fun fact about me, I own a Boston terrier, Grace, a nanday conure, Lowko, a peach fronted conure, Cupcake and a cockatiel Dabs. And also a very handsome cat named Grimmy. He’s such a sweet boy and loves to make appearances in my photo shoots Haha I love animals! One day I’d love to own a larger parrot like a Cockatoo or Macaw. A question I always get asked a lot is what is my favorite aspect of my job? I absolutely love making custom videos and doing custom photo sets and making my fans’ fantasies come to life! I love being artistic and creative and that allows me to incorporate that into my work. I’m a bit of a perfectionist and from the feedback I’ve gotten my fans’ love that about me! Haha they know I won’t send out a video unless it’s more than perfect and truly captures the feel of their fantasy. I love my job! And I’m so blessed to have been able to have this experience in my life and to have had the privilege of knowing some truly amazing, wonderful people! I hope you decide to stop by one of my sites and say hi to this Hoosier gal!

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  • Masturbation tips for Women

    Masturbation tips for Women

    Aaliyah Suarez shares her views on masturbation, what makes her horny and in the mood, and masturbation techniques to reach that mind-blowing orgasm.

    Can you tell us a bit about yourself and where you’re from?

    I am Aaliyah, a 23 year old panty seller from the UK. Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been selling my worn panties, socks, thongs and custom nude pics online – something I have been wanting to do this for a long time and am so happy that I finally started. For me, it’s all about making the service as personal as possible, so I socialize with my customers a lot through email and twitter, and have made some great friends in the process. When I’m not selling panties I love to take photos, bake cakes and go out dancing! One day I would like to become a model and design my own range of lingerie.

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    What are your personal views towards masturbation?

    I find it strange that in today’s society we openly talk and accept male masturbation as something of the norm, but female masturbation is rarely discussed and is still seen as taboo by many people. I think that masturbation in women is just as important as it is in men – it’s one of the best ways to find out what really turns you on and how to get to know your own body. There’s something so alluring about finding a way to unlock your most inner ecstasy, and we shouldn’t feel ashamed of wanting to find it. Over the past few years I have bought dozens of new sex toys and books so I can try out new things in bed but with someone I am truly comfortable with – myself!

    I masturbate whenever I feel the need, I have a couple of weeks each month where my sex drive is incredibly high so it’ll be every day since no one can keep up with me! The rest of the time I do it less frequently, often in the morning to perk me up a little for the rest of the day and put a smile on my face.

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    What gets you in the mood?

    Usually whenever I start to get bored!! When my mind wanders, it seems to get dirtier and dirtier the more I think, and trying to repress it can make it worse. Also, after a glass of wine when my partner is at work and I’m home alone and just can’t wait long enough for him to get back. When I’m doing nude/porn photos I like to be in this feisty, raw horny state of mind so that you can really see it in the images, I think that’s a turn on for others in itself. I prefer to read erotic fiction than watching porn, I have a great imagination and can picture myself in the story, or if I do look at porn I prefer photos to videos. The same again, with pics it’s your imagination that makes the fantasy, nothing has been decided for you, you can make it your own setting and own story.

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    Do you always reach an orgasm each time you masturbate?

    No, not always, but that’s because sometimes I don’t want to! I love bringing myself ridiculously close to orgasm, but then stopping and going about my day as normal. All of that time I’ll feel a small flutter inside myself, knowing that the tiniest little thing could send me into overdrive but even better, I like to wait until I can have a private moment to myself later on. Feeling so sexually wired after the whole day of wanting, when I come I have to make sure I’ve got something to bite on to hide my screams! There’s just something about being teased that drives me insane with lust and passion.

    Aaliyah Suarez

    Please share with us some masturbation techniques with our female readers?

    I have a secret sexy box under my bed full of toys, if I can’t sleep or need some alone time then I’ll go through it when no one’s around; even the best vibrators can still be pretty noisy! I really love smooth, extra small vibrators with a range of intensity you can build up if you want. Starting off gently I stroke my outer lips and between my thighs to tease myself a little, then I like to put on a bit of pressure and make downward strokes over my pubis bone and clitoris, intensifying the pressure and the vibration every few strokes. Once that has worked me up a bit, I allow myself free reign to touch my clit at different angles, pulling back the hood and softly massaging it. This makes me go weak at the knees and become so moist; I really want deep pressure inside of me to fill me up so to speak. So when I feel on the very edge, I slowly slip a long smooth vibrator into my pussy for double stimulation.

    Use a butt plug, preferably a vibrating one, after you insert the vibrator causes a feeling of fullness that I love and a feeling of being deeply stimulated on the inside as well as out. After inserting a butt plug, you still have both hands free to stimulate your pussy and clit, either one by one of at the same time to have triple stimulation.

    Another thing you can do to make masturbation even more pleasurable, is to wear nothing but satin panties (or if you’re really in the mood, don’t wear anything!) and lie on smooth satin sheets for a silky sensation all over your body, stiffening you nipples and caressing all your curves whenever you move. It’s an amazing feeling when you’re turned on and so sensitive to touch, stimulated by the sensation against your skin, I’d highly recommend it.

    I like masturbating in this way because it builds up sexual tension slowly, yet is still very intense at all stages. The feeling of wanting something inside of you and the teasing make orgasms explosive when you finally let them go, it’s about keeping it in as long as you can. It’s great because if you’re in a relationship, you can also do it while your partner is out and you’re waiting for them to come home. Pleasuring yourself to the brink of orgasm then leaving yourself begging for more – a real sexy surprise when they get back in! It’s awesome if you’re single too, a simple way to achieve earth shattering orgasms by yourself, feels almost empowering!


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  • Girls everywhere masturbate.  So why can’t we talk about it?

    Girls everywhere masturbate. So why can’t we talk about it?

    This was the title of an article in the Telegraph which I found recently while browsing the internet.

    The author, Rebecca Holman, doesn’t say anything about tantric sex or tantric orgasm, but just plain old masturbation. And it struck me that what she was saying was true.

    Little by little, over the years, we have become more and more open about what we talk about and what words are allowed on television – and, as the author says, talk about vibrators is fine. We can go and buy them together, and it seems nowadays only a prude would admit to not owning a vibrator.

    ‘But we never discuss female masturbation on its own, without a purple, glittery, revolving phallus, without a man present, just for the sake of it.’

    But men talk about wanking all the time – so why the double standard?  It seems that it is the way we talk about it. It’s fine to discuss in sex education classes and in relation to products (toys) and messages regarding spicing up your sex life. But we don’t talk about how to masturbate. We are the generation that talks about ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING, but not this.

    The author adds that masturbation is fine when it’s for the purpose of male titillation. But does female desire on its own, without a purpose apart from pure pleasure, make us uncomfortable ?

    Intrigued by this, I found another article which this time, looks at male misconceptions about female masturbation.

    Most men think we masturbate according to the way they have seen it done in porn films. If only they knew that we dont need to wear sexy lingerie to please ourselves. It is often done with bad breath, messy hair and wearing old sweat pants.

    And we dont look at photos of male penises – we prefer to think of the person himself… masturbation for women often starts with an erotic thought, not a picture of a penis.

    We dont masturbate in groups with our girlfriends, even though men may fantasise about this, and we dont do it standing in front of a mirror.

    What we have found in our tantric tuition sessions, here at tantric massage in Kensington, is that very few men, when they first come for a tantric tuition session, really know how to pleasure a woman. Maybe this is a problem of communication. And if women dont talk to their girlfriends about masturbation, it is even less likely that they talk to their male partner about it. Maybe many women just dont know how to pleasure themselves. Or if they do, they do not dare tell their partner that he is doing it wrong. It really is time for all this to come out in the open.


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  • Is Female Masturbation Still Considered a Taboo?

    Is Female Masturbation Still Considered a Taboo?

    I’m generally not one for women’s magazines, but I recently took a holiday which, from my home in Krakow, involved a 15-hour journey, split over two consecutive days. Preferring something light to read when I go away, I bought the October issue of Glamour magazine, primarily because there was an article on ’10 new things to do in bed’. (As an erotica writer, new ideas are always welcome.) On the first leg of my journey, I read an intriguing article by Jenny Mollen about masturbation, specifically about how it is still considered taboo to admit to masturbating, and that we need to shake off the shackles and be more open about the fact that we do do it.

    I’m not sure how far I agree with Mollen. A couple of points she makes in the article are definitely true. For example, she mentions that if a man admits to masturbating six times a day, this is considered normal whereas if a woman declared the same thing she would be thought of as weird. This, I completely agree with: for some reason it’s still widely accepted that men have larger sexual appetites than women and that they have a harder time controlling them, despite evidence to the contrary.

    Mollen also says that women don’t talk about masturbation with their friends. They may talk about owning vibrators, but won’t go into specific details. I agree with her on this point too. But do we need to go into specifics? I’m not a prude, I’m very comfortable talking about sex and, if anyone asks, I’m very open about masturbating. But that doesn’t mean everyone is that comfortable and it definitely doesn’t mean they need a blow-by-blow account of my masturbatory sessions, the same way they don’t need details about other aspects of my life; my periods, for example. If it was a partner, that would be different: I would most definitely go into detail then. But there is a time and a place for that kind of conversation and it’s not down the pub, saying to your mates ‘I had a cracking wank this morning.’

    As for the whole reason for the article, I’m not sure how much of a taboo it really is anymore. Admittedly (as I said before) it’s still more socially acceptable for men to admit to solo play than women and there will always be those so prudish or so embarrassed about the topic that they’d rather scoff and criticise than just admit that they too masturbate (if you’re one of those people who says they don’t do it, I have one thing to say to you—you’re lying. Either that or a nun.) But generally speaking I think—especially with the rise in popularity of sex toys—female masturbation is really a non-issue. I’ve certainly never encountered any dodgy looks or snide remarks when talking about the subject.

    Mollen makes one excellent point: masturbation is not talked about in sex education. We learn about the mechanics, we learn about contraception, we learn about saying no until we’re ready. But no mention of masturbation. Mollen believes talking about it will break down whatever barriers there are; I also think it’s a necessary part of sex education. How is someone supposed to pleasure you if you don’t know what you like in the first place?


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  • It’s True. Female Masturbation Exists.

    It’s True. Female Masturbation Exists.

    When was the first time you learned about masturbation?  On the playground?  During an awkward discussion with a parent?  On TV? Was it pretty clear to you what it was and how to do it?  Did you understand what it meant to climax or ejaculate?  If you are male-bodied, it is likely that by the time you were a full grown adolescent, you had a pretty good understanding of masturbation and a wide variety of descriptive euphemisms – “jacking off,” “stroking the sausage,” “whacking it,” and a particularly eloquent one that I recently heard, “attacking the one-eyed, purple-headed warrior.”  If you are female-bodied, the path to your understanding of masturbation and how to do it was likely much more covert and maybe even to this day is not fully developed or clear.

    But why?  Most women will explain that masturbation was not talked about when they were young.  Touching yourself or admitting to any type of physical, sexual desire as a young girl was thought of as shameful, dirty, embarrassing or at the very least something not to be discussed with parents or peers.  But with boys, these “tendencies” were considered natural, normal – something to be both expected and tolerated.  A basic understanding of why this is so, points to our society’s general acceptance of men as sexual creatures with natural, physical urges and our view of women as passive objects of those sexual desires, rather than independent beings with their own natural sexual desires and urges.  And while the movement towards a more sex-positive, pro-feminist view of sexuality has taken foot in many circles, this deeply engrained, double standard view of sexuality undeniably still exists.  And if we aren’t conscious of its presence and effect, it is easy to make false assumptions about sexuality – like the assumption that girls and women do not masturbate.  And if they do, they are more sexually active or promiscuous than most girls or women – a practice known as “slut-shaming,” a neologism used to describe the act of making any person (usually women) feel guilty or inferior for certain sexual behaviors or desires that deviate from traditional (i.e. conservative) gender expectations.

    While the assumption is that all men masturbate, several studies have sought to find out what percentage of women masturbate (because, again, a common assumption is that only a minority of women masturbate).  These studies have yielded results varying from 38% to 92% – an extremely large spread.  Clearly, there is something going on that would cause these studies to find such varying results on a regular basis.  I would speculate that the studies reporting larger percentages were administered anonymously and through a medium that did not require face to face questioning, such as via an online survey.  The studies reporting lower percentages were probably done in person or required some elaboration on the part of the participant.  Essentially, I believe that these results illustrate the issue of women feeling uncomfortable or ashamed on talking about their masturbation habits or even admitting that they do it from time to time.

    So what is to be done?  It’s difficult because the fear of slut shaming extends beyond attitudes from men.  Women are just as likely (if not more so) to perpetuate shame when it comes to masturbation.  The thing about shame is that it is often projected onto those around us – especially those (i.e. other women) we identify with.  And if you can’t share stories, tips, and thoughts about masturbation with your fellow vagina owners, how do you learn?  It’s possible to learn from TV and movies, which perpetuate the myth that women don’t masturbate or when they do, it creates confusion, distress, and embarrassment in the women performing the act.  You can try to learn from porn, and if you are able to find some of the new wave pro-feminist and female-produced contents, it can be a good source for viewing women enjoying their bodies and the pleasure that comes from masturbating.  But if you aren’t able to find these contents, good luck finding any images that you can actually relate to.

    I believe a good first step for all women is to seek out sex-positive, feminist literature and media in order to see evidence that other women do masturbate and do so without shame, embarrassment, or negative repercussions.  A book I recommend to clients and friends alike is “Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving,” by Betty Dodson, a woman who personifies the acceptance and embracing of female sexuality and expression.  For the more adventurous or advanced, I recommend visiting your local sex toy shop (preferably one marketed towards women) and asking for information on different toys or movies that might interest you.  I also strongly believe in the power of being curious and taking the risk of being vulnerable in conversations with friends.  I have had many different kinds of conversations about masturbation with other women – some were wrought with embarrassment, some were really funny, some were tinged with shame, and many resulted in immense relief at the recognition that they aren’t the only one who doesn’t have it all figured out or has what they thought was a “weird” habit.  But in all these instances, masturbation was discussed.  And I believe that sometimes a conversation is all it takes to begin changing our false assumptions about sexuality.