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  • Natural Contraception: Know Thy Cycle, Know Thyself

    Natural Contraception: Know Thy Cycle, Know Thyself

    If you’re a heterosexual couple of childbearing age you’ve got to deal with the fantasy-crushing subject of birth control.

    There are certainly a lot of options and devices out there, but not many of them are good for your health.

    I won’t go into all the scientific links between the Contraceptive Pill and breast cancer here (you can read more in my Sex Column in Nature and Health magazine).

    What I will say is there are healthy ways of not getting pregnant while still enjoying a thriving sex life.

    This is such a thing as natural contraception.

    The kind of natural contraception that doesn’t mess with your hormones.

    Now there are a lot of half-truths out there around natural contraception – so please leave all your previous knowledge at the door.

    What I want to introduce you to is the Billings Ovulation Method which came about in the 1950s by a Catholic couple who wanted a method of birth control that would honour their religious beliefs.

    What they discovered through extensive research was that women, like every other female in the animal kingdom, would discharge certain secretions from the vagina outside of menstruation.

    Essentially what they found is that the cervix has a plug of mucus that stops anything, including semen, from entering apart from during menstruation and ovulation.

    This means you can actually learn which handful of days you’re ovulating and thus chart your fertility.

    What does this mean for your sex life?

    While every woman’s cycle will be slightly different, you can have sex like rabbits at least two weeks of each month without the fear of getting pregnant, without any other form of contraception.

    Sounds great doesn’t it?

    No condoms, no pill, just natural contraception!

    Now – do NOT, I repeat, do NOT try working this out on your own.

    There are Billings Ovulation Method instructors all over the world who can teach you and your partner how to learn your cycle and understand your body.

    I have trained up in this method and can now offer it as part of the one-on-one five month session program I offer.

    Learning the rhythms of your body really is something all women should invest time in doing.

    Since I’ve been practising the Billings Ovulation Method I’ve felt more connected to my body and really in touch with my womanly cycles.

    It’s so empowering to know your body this intimately, and is such an important part of being a women – to know herself inside out.

    What’s great about the Billings Ovulation Method is that is can be used to ‘get’ pregnant.

    When you are fully aware of your cycles and when you’re ovulating, you are much more in tune with when the right time is to be making love (and a bubba).

    If you’d like to learn more about your sexual health, please email tamra@gettingnaked.com.au to discuss more about our sexual health education options and courses, including natural contraception.

    This article is republished courtesy of Tamra Mercieca. Read the original post here

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  • Should Pornstars Wear Condoms?

    Should Pornstars Wear Condoms?

    Since I was a little girl, I always dreamt about having sex and never-ending orgasms. And only at the age of 19 I had it (not talking about blowjobs etc.) for the first time. Why so late? Maybe because if you wish for something so much, you are then afraid it won’t be that perfect as you were imaging it for so long? Who knows… It is like with anal sex. Most of the girls are skeptical about it because they find it weird and are afraid of pain. But once you finally decide to try it, it is definitely not bad at all.

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    Is Sex More Enjoyable With Or Without Condoms?

    There are so many different kinds of condoms, that everyone can find the most suitable one. I don’t see any real difference between sex with or without a condom. If you like your partner and am excited about him, your pussy does get wet and enjoys having sex with him even when he uses a condom. The only difficulty I see is when you are actually planning to get pregnant, then the condom might be a bit problematic.

    No Condoms In Porn

    I have been told that using condoms in porn is disturbing people who are watching it. Because people want to see natural sex, not sex with condom. But in your real life, isn’t it natural having sex with a condom, when “meeting” someone for the first time?

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    Should Pornstars Wear Condoms?

    Until there are existing performers who are under the effect of antibiotics when getting tested (yes, antibiotics do influence the test results, so even if you are positive on an STD, your STD test results will come out negative) or until there are existing performers who are having unprotected sex the night before their shoot (and yes, they are happy to share that on their social medias), then porn performers should definitely use condoms. Not to protect only their own health but mainly the health of all the others and their families.

    When I was still working without condom, I rather had sex with a condom with my own husband. Isn’t that a bit weird? Imagine that after my first week in porn I was infected with gonorrhoea and he obviously caught it from me immediately. Therefore I then told to myself “no way” and I started to perform with a condom only.

    If everyone starts using condoms in porn, everyone will find it normal. So no, it won’t change the industry in anyhow. Apart from performers being always healthy and so being able to work.

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    How Will Porn Evolve With Condoms?

    In my opinion it will be exactly the same like now, you take out the condom just before the cumshot. If you want to see a creampie, well then the performers can do it with their life-partners (majority of pornstars are married anyway and most likely their husband/wife works also in porn), or simply use some cinematographic effects as it is already in use now.

    Lynna Nilsson (Ms.Lynna) is an international full-time Photomodel, T-DJ and Adult Performer of Swedish-Czech origin. Since 2007 Lynna has worked internationally as Model and since 2013 also as DJ who in an exceptionally short time has come a long way. Read the rest of her profile below and follow her on facebook.com/Ms.Lynna and www.twitter.com/MissLynnaCom

    Her new membership site, Lynna’s Sex World lynnasexworld.com is a blog where you can read about a unique opportunity to shoot a scene with her, even if you are not from the porn business. With condom and valid STD obviously 😉

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  • 2 Tips to make using Condoms more fun when they’re required

    2 Tips to make using Condoms more fun when they’re required

    Sex has always been something I’ve loved! And why wouldn’t I?? Why wouldn’t anyone? Sex is Great!! The ability to let go and feel in the moment, along with all the pleasure and excitement that comes with the connection is beyond anything else in this world! I see sex as a way to not only connect on a deeply intimate level with someone you’re attracted to, but also a way of being able to connect with oneself. The exploration of sex is an area with so many possibilities and so much pleasure, not to mention the huge health benefits that are said to come along with sex: Stress release, can help lower blood pressure and can help improve your immune system. Great exercise, and sex, always seems to help me sleep better since relaxation comes easily afterwards!

    The one thing with sex that’s not always so much fun is the condom issue. We all know that they’re necessary at times, but how do they make the experience feel? And how can the necessary use of condoms be better? Can you make using a condom a little more fun and not such a show stopper when it comes to being in the moment?

    If asked, most people will say, including myself, that sex without a condom is better. The slippery, bare, skin on skin feeling with the right person, along with the psychological bare skin connection is unbeatable! It’s not just you ‘guys’ that feel that way either… We girls love that feeling, too, and because we’re emotional creatures, bare skin sex is a total turn on emotionally as well!! But sometimes, condoms are an absolute must. For those times when you’re with a partner you’re not so familiar with or in a non-committed relationship or chance encounter/hookup, how can the condom requirement become more a part of the experience, rather than a hindrance to the moment? As far as I’m concerned there are 2 key things that need to be addressed in order to create a better experience: the feel of sex with a condom and actually putting a condom on.

    First, there’s the ‘feeling’. One thing to remember is that even though you may need to use a condom, the pleasure derived from the experience can still rank up there in the top 10. For example, in a situation where condoms are required, the level of concern you might have if you didn’t use one is lowered considerably, as you don’t have to worry so much about what might ‘come up’ after the fact. Condoms can definitely help put your mind more at ease there, making the moment much more enjoyable. And using the right condom will certainly up the pleasure aspect of the experience for both parties.

    While condom type is a personal preference, I’ve found the ultra-thin versions to be a better experience in comparison to regular or ribbed types. But again, that’s my personal preference. While I haven’t tried ALL the varieties out there, I have tried a few and found Trojan Thintensity to be my favorite. I’m sort of a Trojan brand girl, but again, that’s just me. There’s also a latex-free condom from LifeStyles called SKYN that I have tried a few times and found them to be pretty great, too, but as I said, I happen to be more of a Trojan girl. That’s just my ‘brand’ of preference. There are so many different types and brands out there now, that it’s best to find what works for you through experimentation.

    Just an FYI: On the news front with condoms, they’re now working on creating condoms that feel even more skin-like using hydrogels (the type of material used in contact lenses and what not), so that’s kind of exciting! While they’re still in the R&D phase of hydrogel use, it’s definitely something to watch for to see what they come up with!

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    The second very important aspect of using condoms is the act of putting the condom on. That in itself can chop things up and take some of the sexy out of the moment. So the question is: how do you make putting the condom on more part of the moment rather than a proverbial show stopper? It’s all in the technique. This one happens to be for the ladies, but it definitely keeps the motion moving forward without much pause. The only pause would be to get the condom, so have it nearby if at all possible. For you guys, maybe you can ‘suggest’ this one to your girl and see if she’s up for trying it out. One caveat for the technique I’m going to propose… go un-lubricated when possible. The reasons will be obvious as you read on…

    First, you’ll want to get your guy hard, or at least a little more than half way, so do what you do the way you do it to get him going… Once he’s there, take the condom out and use your finger to find which way the condom unfolds, all the time, maintaining eye contact with that sexy, I’m going to fuck you look. Once you’ve done that, take the condom and place it right on the inside edge of your lips so that it’s between the inside of your lips and your teeth. Make sure that you place it so that it unrolls into your mouth… then, give him a smile as he’s lying there, or standing there in front of you while you’re on your knees, and take him in your mouth and slowly roll the condom on while you have him there. You’ll most likely have to use your hand as you go down to help roll the condom on, but they never seem to mind that!

    Now you can totally practice this ahead of time to perfect things. Just use a dildo, or anything about that size, and practice putting it on using your mouth. It’s not that tough and you’ll get the hang of it pretty quick! Once you do, he’ll love it, and it really does make the whole condom placement much more fun, while taking the major pause to put one on out of the picture.

    Once you’ve got this technique mastered, and know what condom style you like best, the condom experience can be just as satisfying as having sex without one, with the added security and peace of mind knowing that you are both more protected from any unfortunate issues that could come up later. Another tip for condom types if you’re not sure what style to use: The ultra-thin’s are usually a good default choice, just because the guys are most likely going to favor them for more feeling… and more feeling is Always better!!

    Also, remember to go with the non-lubricated type, because using this technique to put a condom on, while still possible, does not taste good at all. You can always use a condom safe lubricant after putting it on, if you need to. So find your favorite condom style, practice putting them on using the blowjob method, and then have some protected sexy, uninterrupted fun when condoms are a requirement!

    I’m Jessie Ashlen, a professional, upscale companion/escort for those gentlemen looking for that unique experience that encapsulates the temporary girlfriend, muse, and confidante all in one. Visit the rest of my profile and the links to my sites below!

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  • Rubbers – Singapore’s Funniest Sex Comedy

    Rubbers – Singapore’s Funniest Sex Comedy

    Singapore’s funniest sex comedy Rubbers opens in cinemas this 30th April.  Directed by Han Yew Kwang, who has filmed shows such as 18 Grams of Love and When Hainan meets Teochew previously, and starring artistes such as Yeo Yann Yann and Alaric Tay.  Comprising of 3 short stories centering around the main topic of condoms, Rubbers promises to bring lots of laughs and sex to its audience, including the underlying message of practicing safe sex with condoms.  SimplySxy has the pleasure of asking director Han Yew Kwang a few questions on his latest film.

    SimplySxy: Hey Yew Kwang, thanks for taking the time to answer our questions and congratulations on the upcoming official release of your latest film Rubbers. Please tell us a little about what viewers can expect when they catch it?

    Yew Kwang: They can expect lots of laughs, lust and life (人生) in this film.

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    SimplySxy: We love the film’s choice of name Rubbers which is apt and direct. What was the inspiration behind the film?

    Yew Kwang: We had this spy vs spy story in 2009, whereby a condom brand called RELAX sends a spy to their rival company called DURABLE and vice versa. The 2 spies fell in love eventually and started a new brand called DUREX. As we further developed the story, gathered more stories from friends and did more research about condoms, it evolved into Rubbers.

    SimplySxy: Is there any message or messages you wish to bring across to viewers through Rubbers?

    Yew Kwang: I don’t have a formal message. I simply want the audience to laugh, have fun and have sex… wearing condoms.

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    SimplySxy: As Singapore is still largely conservative, did the thought of how the public will react cross your mind during the planning and production of Rubbers?

    Yew Kwang: Yes, there is a scene whereby Julian Hee puts on a luminous condom to provide lights for the frightened Yeo Yann Yann during a blackout. At first, we were afraid that some audience might find it offensive or inappropriate. We thought of having him put the condom on his hammer or finger. But in the end, we trusted our instinct and went ahead with the original idea.

    SimplySxy: What is your view towards the topic of sex being talked about and discussed openly in Singapore?

    Yew Kwang: Sex is an adult’s habit and hobby. If we can discuss about our hobbies and habits in public, we should talk sex.

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    SimplySxy: How does Rubbers rank among your other films such as Unarmed Combat and When Hainan Meets Teochew?

    Yew Kwang: I think Rubbers is my most accessible film.

    SimplySxy: Thank you for the interview Yew Kwang and we’ll certainly be catching Rubbers and wish it all the best! One last question, how do you define “sexy”?

    Yew Kwang: Sexy is anything that can make you sexually creative and your erotic imagination run wild.

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    Rubbers will be released in Singapore on 30th April.  Be sure to catch it at the cinema near you!

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  • Is sex more enjoyable without condoms?

    Is sex more enjoyable without condoms?

    In the world of penetrative sex, the guiding wisdom follows that safe sex is the best sex. But is sex truly as enjoyable while wearing a prophylactic as when going at it bareback? This contentious issue has resulted in two polarizing camps: those who sing the gospel of suiting up and those who praise the joys of going raw.

    Truth is, though, most reading this post will answer the question with a collective “duh.” Little else compares to the elation one experiences from the unadulterated sensation of a moist velvety smooth vaginal, anal, or oral cavity.  No amount of extra-thin latex can produce the same sensation of going bareback. Still, there are too many risks involved with unprotected sex to outright promote the practice.

    Nonetheless, sex without a condom is more enjoyable. I know it’s not a socially responsible answer to the question, but it is honest. There are circumstances, however, in which sex with a condom can be more enjoyable than while wearing one. For this reason, I contend that the answer to the question is that it all depends.

    Many who promote the use of condoms at all times like to declare that sex is just as enjoyable, if not more so, than unprotected sex. They suggest sexy ways to incorporate condoms into foreplay. These condom proponents will often discuss the many product options available that allow for the same, if not better, sensations as experienced with unprotected sex. I agree that condoms can be incorporated into sex partners’ routines in a way that makes the experience quite enjoyable, but usually that’s due to a state of mind versus the physical sensations.

    For the bulk of my extramarital relations, condoms were total boner killers. However, I  once had a lover who recognized the effect the appearance of a rubber had on me and made it an enjoyable experience. She had oral skills that blew my mind. Within her retinue was the ability to slip a condom on me with her mouth without me ever knowing. We eventually stopped using protection, but the first time she slipped me inside her, I alerted her to the fact that I wasn’t wearing protection. She smiled down at me and challenged my assertion. I reached down past her bottom and felt that I did indeed sport packaged wood, but I never felt it go on. The condom was in place, and I continued to rock an achingly hard erection. The fact that she was able to suit me up so effectively only served to heighten the sensations in that round. During our next round, however, I grabbed a condom and attempted to pop it on. No such luck. I instantly limped. Being aware of the use of the condom killed my boner.

    The start of the relationship with my most recent lover highlights what a difference the mental aspect plays in regards to the enjoyability of sex with a condom. We started out very responsibly. We never played without protection. I wanted to slide inside her bareback at some time in the future but was in no rush to do so. It got to the point that I began to become aroused at the sight of a condom. Condoms equated to tremendous extramarital sex with my lover. I knew it was only a matter of time before we ditched the condom, but it came quicker than I expected. I actually felt disappointed when we stopped using them. My erections even lost their full rigidity until I got a nice pace going. I still wonder why I had a stronger erection with her while using a condom than without. I inevitably came around and enjoyed bareback sex just as much without a condom as with one. But, how very perplexing it was to find sex more enjoyable with a condom. It certainly gives some credence to the condom-use advocates’ position.

    Another group for whom condoms can make sex more enjoyable are the minute men. Here’s a fellow who gets to the point of penetrating his lover, manages a mere half dozen slow thrusts, and then… Pop! Game over. This man is not afforded with a chance to relish the experience and is often left with a feeling of inadequacy. There is a solution: wear a rubber. From my own experience, the staying power that comes from wearing a condom presents an obstacle to me hitting the finish line. For the longest time, I couldn’t cum if I wore a rubber. In this regard and unlike the minute man, this made sex less enjoyable for me. Luckily, I finally found a sweet spot and managed to find fulfillment while wearing protection.

    In addition to often resulting in limpness, I’ve found using condoms also destroys spontaneity. I remember starting out bareback with my first lover after my wife and I opened our marriage. It took about a month before something clicked and she began to require me to wear protection. The thing about this lover and me is that we often engaged each other in random locations, and always on a whim. My cock would be granite, her pussy a lake, and the tip of my penis would be poised right at her entrance. Then everything came screeching to a halt as we scrambled for a rubber. By the time we found one and unpackaged it, the heat had faded. Even once I managed to sheathe my sword, and if it managed to stay fully erect, a good portion of the passion had dissolved and it became merely an action, not a celebratory act.

    Overall, I will likely always find sex more enjoyable without a condom. It ultimately comes down to the preferences of individuals.

    If done correctly and safely, sex with a condom can result in a higher level of intimacy than protected sex. To do so, though, partners must be honest with one another and communicate any hesitations they may have. Also, I highly recommend getting tested prior to entering into a condom-free sex life with your partner(s), with the understanding that testing doesn’t guarantee that you or your partner(s) are free of STIs. Done responsibly, scrapping the condom and going in bare is one of the most enjoyable feelings we as human beings can experience.

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  • The Morning After Sex

    The Morning After Sex

    Was it good for you?  That should be the first question that comes to mind after a night of sex with a new partner.  You can rate it 1-10 if you like, but you may find the feelings are more like “Hell Yeah!” you don’t want it to end, or what the hell was I thinking?  Or how drunk was I?  Or worse, I thought that was going to be good sex.  Let’s look at what to do before and after:

    Hell Yeah, that was great and I hope we can do it again soon.  Well then do.  Touch your partner again and let new sparks fly with the lights on, I bet it will be even better.  Either way, pull out another condom or the first one if you forgot last night and smile.  Don’t be afraid to make the first move now, I think you’ve successfully made a home run and you can go up to bat again, unless of course there is work or school responsibilities which either of you have to get too.   If so, tell your partner you would love to do it again if it’s true, but you gotta go.  Elayne Boosler does a comedy routine about a female walking home from an all nighter in her skimpy black dress in the morning that’s pretty funny to have in your head while you make your exit.  Accept that your partner may have to run or may not feel the same about the night.  If so, be gracious say thanks for the good time you had and leave.  Don’t lie with an ‘I’ll call you’, just don’t.

    How drunk was I?  Alcohol, weed or other drugs helps you drop your guard and your judgement.  Or as my Mom would say, ‘you loose your good sense along with your drawers (panties)’.  You may be drunk but there is no reason to take stupid risks.  Use your drunkness to help you relax and get past your fears of trying something or someone new, asking the Tough Questions and learning more about your partner.   The downside of not asking are quite serious so let’s look at the way to make them opportunities:

    • Did you talk about safe sex?  Use your uninhibited boldness for good and blurt it out: ‘Are you disease free?’ or ‘Is there something I should know about sex with you?’
    • Did you use protection?  Again, automatic behaviours like pulling out the condoms or dental dam from your purse or pocket makes it clear that you play safe.
    • What’s in it for me?  My husband taught me this one, that if you don’t ask, you don’t get.  So if the kissing is good and you are feeling the heat of passion, whisper in the ear that sexual move that really rocks your boat and guarantees a happy ending for you.  Then ask what they like as well.
    • Where we going?  This is a toughie when you are young and living at home.  If it’s his place, you gotta have a back up plan.  Back in the 80’s when I started, stumbling into a guys trashy apartment was such a turn off, I was afraid to turn on the lights.  And when morning came I was so grossed out that I left right away.  But if either of your places is out of the question, the back of a car option will have to do.  It’s a classic place if you have a car, and then you only have to worry about location.  Keep a pillow, blanket, condom, and tissues for clean up at all times in the car please!  Stay in the parking lot with the other night partiers is better than driving off to some place darker and quieter where the cops or burglars may interrupt you.

    I thought this was going to be good sex.  But instead it was like flopping around with a dying or dead fish.  Good sex is a skill that takes practice.  Nobody starts off as a great lover, so going slow and enjoying the steps of building passion is the best advise I can give you for knowing what you like and learning what your partner likes.  Good sex in my bed means both partners had an orgasm inducing experience.   And if you didn’t orgasm and your partner did and fell asleep right away, that makes for a long uncomfortable night of not sleeping and getting mad when they start to snore.   So let’s go back and analyse this one:

    1.  If you can ask for a drink, you can ask for an orgasm.  Remember what my husband said, you gotta ask for what you want.  I know by now you can order off a menu, so you also need to ask for the experience you want to have.  You have a fantasy about what great sex will be like, so share your fantasy.  Whisper it in your partners ear prior to removing clothes so it gives them time to think and plan better or ask you for details.  Communication is Sexy.  Anyway you say it, shy, bold, flirty is adding the instructions to create a good experience.

    2.  No two bodies are alike.  Your erogenous zones are not like the others.  Again, you wouldn’t know if you don’t ask.  Play the game, ‘how does this feel?’  Try something, get a response and then say ‘your turn’.  This gets you in the practice of exploring the right direction instead of wasting time irritating your partner with the wrong stroke, while they are silently hoping you’ll change positions or move to something else.

    3.  Don’t stop talking now.  Speak up once you get into bed.  “Stay here”, “move to the left”, “sit back a little”, “touch me back please”.  All these key phrases go a long way in getting a mutually satisfying experience.  I think the biggest mistake couples make is that they stop talking when they get in bed together.  You can’t go into automatic pilot now, you both have to steer to get where you want to go.

    4.  If you are with a dead fish, pause for a moment and ask if they are comfortable and where they would like to be touched or what would feel good for them.  They may not know so play the ‘how does this feel game’ and get the communication going.  If you are with a flopping fish ask them to lay back and let you play a little more.  It’s your way of taking the lead and taking the pressure off your partner’s urgency to get there orgasm.

    Remember, your first priority is YOU. Your satisfaction, health, respect, feelings.  That will take communicating with your partner on how to get there and in turn, you both learn how to take care of yourself.  That way they don’t have to wish they read this article because you’ve just trained them.

    The Tough Questions – Pregnancy, STD’s, Marks, Bruises or Pain.  These are all serious morning-after questions and you can avoid most of them if you communicate before hand.  Informed consent is the responsibility of both partners.  Making the decision to have sex is something you do before, as it saves on the regrets later.

    Will they call again?  Maybe, but the question for you is ‘was the experience worth repeating?’  Did you want more just like it was or did you hope to improve it next time?  Look at the experience as a one time event and judge whether you would do it again based on what you know now.  If you liked it, be thankful and the opportunity for it repeating will come again.  If not, focus on what shifts you need to make to get the experience you want.  You want to repeat the fun experiences, not the bad ones so learn from them and make it the best sex ever!

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  • Putting It |ON|

    Putting It |ON|

    This is for the benefit of those ladies out there who are too shy to question and the men who never care to share.  It all started with a seemingly innocent statement when the mon ami and I were walking down the streets of Rueil-Malmaison  one evening.  I was checking out a condom vending machine by the pharmacy when he blurted that he would have to purchase some condoms for his friends as the ones in Singapore were not as comfy.  The wheels started turning in my head and before long, I was bombarding him on the types of condoms that are exclusive to Paris.  While I was vaguely aware of the selection that is available to the male population, I was never properly introduced to these.  Moreover, I had always assumed that those fanciful looking square boxes were simply mere products of marketing gimmicks and the condom is well … just a piece of very useful phallic-looking piece of rubber for preventing the holy mother of all accidents.  Hence, I embark on yet another great google-hunt.  This together, with some personal feedback that I have gathered will hopefully, add some variety to the bedroom.

    One of the most apparent difference is that of the diameter, with condoms sold in Europe and United States offering a bigger diameter for the better endowed while the Asian equivalent provides a snug fit.  In addition, condoms in Europe and the United States are available in premiums of 18 while the ones in Asia are usually limited to 12 a pack.  A number of condoms have also emerged as top favourites among Durex users.  Durex’s Super Safe is resistant to wear and tear, and perfect for those who like it rough.  On the other hand, Fetherlite is durable yet comfortable enough for one to forget the feeling being encased in a piece of rubber while having sex. The crowd-winning Pleasuremax comes in a bright pink box and even though it is slightly thicker than its counterparts, the dots and ridges aid in giving that little extra bit of stimulation and undeniable joy.  Durex Love is also widely popular as it is much thinner in comparison to its counterparts, hence providing that added sensitivity without slipping.

    Apart from these, there are a number of non-mainstream condoms such as Sir Richard’s natural latex condoms that are vegan and lack that offending latex flavor and smell.  In addition, tantric-style sheaths that are embellished with tattoo-esque designs not only served to maximize textured pleasure, but also instantly transform the penis into an exquisite looking shaft which I personally find to be rather disturbing but well, to each his own . With this knowledge, ladies no longer need to play a passive role when it comes to their partners’ selection of condoms. As for me, that very pack of Pleasuremax has been added to this weekend’s to-do list 🙂

  • Hold That Thought… For a Minute

    Hold That Thought… For a Minute

    The night starts out harmless enough.  Your new hottie is chilling on the sofa, drinking wine and watching the hottest new action film out on DVD.  You’re snuggled into his side, his arm wrapped around your back, comfortable and secure.  A light squeeze from him and you look up to find him staring down at you, a hint of desire blossoms, and bam!  His lips meet yours, tongues collide and dance together, spurring the relaxing night in an entirely new direction.

    By the time you rip your lips away from his for a breather, you’re straddling him, buttons are being popped open and hands are wandering.  Hearts pump faster, rushing the blood to the best parts of your body.  You’re lightheaded, heated, and ready to get naked.

    We’ve all been there and there’s no shame in embracing your sexuality.  And while the safest and most responsible answer would be to not have sex until you’re better acquainted, we live in the real world where our whacked-out emotions often overrule the “sensible” thing.  However, slowing things down for a few minutes to think about protecting yourself and your partner is important.

    When was the last time you were screened for sexually transmitted infections?  How well do you know your partner, and when was the last time he’s had a health screening?  Are you on birth control?  Until all these questions are addressed, safety is an absolute must.  There’s just no way around it.

    The very first thing I want to stress is the need to be open and honest with your physician.  In order to properly screen you for the correct diseases, they need to understand your sexual history, and I can almost promise you there’s nothing they haven’t heard before.  I’ve worked with these men and women, I even did a stint at a health clinic for a bit, and things happen to people in all facets of life.  In fact, sitting here thinking, I can’t imagine one thing a person could say to shock me.

    Different STIs (previously called STD’s) are identified through various methods: blood tests, urinalyses, physical exams, and fluid or tissue samples.  None of these are what I’d call exciting, but when compared to the symptoms of many STIs, a needle prick or pelvic exam seem downright enjoyable.

    Until both you and your partner have been screened and agree to a monogamous, committed relationship, protection should be a regular part of your sexual repartee.  Alone, birth control has a high efficiency rate of preventing pregnancy, but no matter what form: the pill, a shot, NuvaRing, IUDs, etc., will not protect you from STIs.  Condoms are the way to go.

    They make condoms for both men and women, though studies have shown men’s condoms to be the best choice for preventing diseases.  And hey, why not make using them half the fun?  Be creative.  Watch him roll it on, letting the anticipation build and excite you.  Or, slide it on yourself while giving your man a hand job, or get super creative and learn to apply it with your mouth?  After all, why would they make them flavoured if you weren’t supposed to give them a lick or two?  Just be careful of those teeth!

    Female condoms will provide a barrier of protection and help prevent diseases also, they just haven’t proven to be as effective as men’s condoms.  And dental dams can be used for oral sex to keep fluids and bacteria from being transferred between partners.  Different textures can be fun to experiment with… being safe doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

    We’ve all heard the “But it feels better without a condom” line.  Maybe it’s true, I’m not a guy and I’ve been married for 19 years, so I can’t honestly recall what having sex with a condom feels like, but I do remember enjoying sex before my husband, and I relished in the fact I could go into marriage disease free.

    And people, condoms need to be worn for every sexual act: oral, vaginal, and anal.  They need to be discarded after each sexual act, and another applied before going another round or switching from oral to vaginal, vaginal to anal, or any other of combinations you desire.

    So, now he’s wrapped, or you’ve secured a feminine condom in place; here’s your time to lose yourself in each other, experiment, and just have some all-out fun. After all, a few orgasms are good for one’s body and mood!

  • Condom Tips

    Condom Tips

    When it comes to sex, everyone wants to have the best time of their lives.  Hence, it is better to be safe than sorry.  Condoms are one of the best contraceptive options (99% effective) that can prevent unwanted pregnancies and STIs including HIV.

    Below is a four step method to follow in ensuring proper use of a condom during sex.

    Step 1

    A condom must be put on first before coming into contact with the vagina, anus or mouth of the partner.  Carefully open the wrapper from the jagged edges and take out the condom.  Never rip it open or use your teeth as this might cause the condom to tear.

    Step 2

    Place the condom with the tip pointing upwards on top of the penis.  Check that the condom is in the right direction so that it can be rolled downwards.  Squeeze the entire reservoir tip of the condom gently (to remove the air) and roll it down the shaft of the erect penis.

    Note that you have put it on backwards, throw it away and use a new one as the pre-cum will have already come into contact with the condom and flipping it over may cause pregnancy.

    For men who are uncircumcised, make sure you pull back the foreskin before putting on the condom.

    Step 3

    Apply lubricant over the condom if necessary.  This helps to protect the condom from damages and also ensures smooth entry into the vagina.  Some lubricants also contain spermicides which can help to reduce any risk of pregnancy.

    Remember never to apply oil-based lubricants as they can cause the condom to breakdown.  Always use water-based lubricants.

    Step 4

    After ejaculation during sex, hold the condom at the base of the penis and withdraw it from the vagina.  This is to ensure that the condom is not left inside the vagina of the lady.  To remove the condom, hold the base and gently roll it off.  Tie it up, wrap it in tissue paper and dispose into a waste bin.

    Extra tips for a more enjoyable experience

    • Ensure that the condoms are kept in a cool dry place.  Heat and sunlight can cause the latex to break so do not leave the condoms in a car or in a wallet.
    • Check the condom for its expiry before usage.  Throw away any condoms past their expiry date.
    • During sex, check occasionally for any tears on the condom or if it has slipped off the penis and dislodged in the vagina.
    • Applying lubricant into the tip of the condom before putting it on helps to avoid breakage and enhances the pleasure for men.
    • Replace condoms if switching from vaginal to anal sex or vice versa.  This reduces the risk of infection.
    • Practice wearing a condom if you have never done so before.  Condoms are easy to use with practice and experience.

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