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  • Does Circumcision Cut Penis Sensitivity?

    Does Circumcision Cut Penis Sensitivity?

    Circumcision — it’s one of the most hotly debated sexual health issues in the medical community. In part that’s because in this country, and other developed countries, there isn’t any clear benefit to circumcise or not to circumcise, says Karen Boyle, M.D., director of male reproductive medicine and surgery at Chesapeake Urology Associates in Baltimore.

    Intact men enjoy four times more penile sensitivity than circumcised men, according to the “Fine-touch Pressure Thresholds in the Adult Penis” article published today in the British Journal of Urology International. The study was conducted to map fine-touch pressure thresholds of the adult penis in circumcised and uncircumcised males to compare the two populations.

    Researchers measured fine-touch sensitivity of the penis at 17 specific sites on the intact (non-circumcised) penis and the remaining 9 sites plus two scar sites on the circumcised penis. The results surprised the research team, according to Morris Sorrells, MD, lead researcher, who said, “The most sensitive part of the penis is the preputial opening. The results confirmed that the frenulum and ridged band of the inner foreskin are highly erogenous structures that are routinely removed by circumcision, leaving the penis with one-fourth the fine-touch sensitivity it originally possessed.” Five sites on the penis-all regularly removed by circumcision-are more sensitive than the most sensitive site remaining on the circumcised penis. Researcher pediatrician and statistician Robert Van Howe said, “Oddly, the most sensitive site on the circumcised penis is the circumcision scar itself.”

    This was in fact reported by a Michigan State University study, that found that the most sensitive part of a circumcised guy’s penis is his circumcision scar. A possible explanation: After circumcision, “the penis has to protect itself—like growing a callus on your foot, but to a lesser extent,” says Darius Paduch, M.D., Ph.D., a urologist and male sexual medicine specialist at New York-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center. This means nerve endings are further from the surface—and therefore, may be less responsive.

    Circumcised men prefer it rough – The study has received international attention. Politicians from California, for example, have been in contact with the researchers because they want to ban circumcision in their federal state.

    There appears to be a very simple reason why circumcised men and their partners are having problems with their sex lives. The circumcised man develops a thin layer of hard skin on his penis head, which decreases the sensitivity. This means that in order to reach an orgasm, he needs to work harder at it, and that can lead to a painful experience for their partner.

    Previous studies documented that circumcised penises are shorter; now researchers have compared and found them lacking in sensitivity, too. From their findings, researchers of this study conclude that circumcision ablates the most sensitive parts of the penis. These findings come several decades after Masters & Johnson said there is no sensitivity difference in a circumcised and a non-circumcised penis. Now their questionable findings have been disproved and the results of this study provide additional evidence about the importance of preserving the protective, sensitive foreskin.

    It’s worth mentioning that women with circumcised partners are three times more likely to experience sexual pain than ladies with uncircumcised spouses, the study from Denmark found. “The uncircumcised penis is much glossier, a more velvety feel,” says Paduch. “So for women who aren’t lubricating well, they experience much less discomfort having sex with a guy who is uncircumcised.” He adds that guys who have their foreskin intact require lubricant far less frequently during sex and masturbation, since the skin of their penis in naturally slicker.

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  • What do most men do after sex

    What do most men do after sex

    I am one of those men who believe that –

    The sex act can be divided into three components: foreplay, intercourse, and afterplay.

    Foreplay, about which volumes have been written, is the traditional lead-in to intercourse itself. Foreplay can last from minutes to hours, is limited primarily by imagination and creativity, and includes all activities that stimulate the sexual appetite for intercourse. I truly enjoy foreplay, unlike some men who just want to get down to the business.

    Personally speaking, I love intense and insanely hot makeout session, caressing, heavy petting and oral sex. The passion of getting aroused by tantalizing kissing, touching and caressing erogenous zones, exploring each other’s bodies before penetration can be very satisfying.
    Intercourse itself is what most people consider the pleasure of sex. However, what happens after intercourse can be just as meaningful emotionally and pleasurable physically. This post coital activity is known as “afterplay”.

    This is what most men do after having sex-

    1. Roll over and fall asleep.

    2. Obsessive need to clean up after. Some men feel repulsed after orgasm and just want to clean themselves up thoroughly.

    3. Light a cigarette. I know it sounds like a cliche’ but some men enjoy a smoke after the act.

    4. Get up and leave. Their point is- “I am in for sex and not for after play or anything. Dude, we are not in a relationship or anything, Right?”

    5. Cuddle, some men like to cuddle which reinforces release of endorphins and oxytocin. It maakes you feel good.

    6. Finally there are those men- who like to clean up everything without using towel, if you know what I mean 🙂

    Unfortunately, most men don’t believe in afterplay, and frankly not much is written about afterplay.

    As far as I am concerned, I believe that afterplay is as important as foreplay. Ignorance of afterplay is common. Many people simply don’t realize that intimate ambiance can continue after orgasm.

    Some universal perspectives on how to enjoy Afterplay

    How should you afterplay? That depends on you as a couple. Many people prefer cuddling and snuggling. Hair brushing, back scratching, massaging, and caressing are also popular. Just lying together, savoring the touch, sight, smell, and taste of each other can bring intense emotional satisfaction and ready lovers for another shared intimacy.

    To quote the fourth century Sanskrit love manual, the Kama Sutra- “If lovers spend time playing and caressing each other at the end of their loving, then their ecstasy and confidence increase. Love-play enhances pleasure.”
    Afterplay should include some of the things that they enjoy and that brought them together in the first place, such as a bubble bath, sharing a glass of wine, or listening to music. Romantic, intimate conversation during afterplay can enhance the emotional aspects of sex and strengthen the bonds of the relationship, as can sharing an intimate laugh or joke.

    Afterplay do’s and don’ts

    It is important to remember that the time immediately after intercourse is a time of great vulnerability. If the intercourse is fast, furious, and unfulfilling, the partners–may feel  “post coital depression.” This feeling of emptiness and resentment can be lessened by effective afterplay, especially with reassurance, embracing, and cuddling. If there was difficulty during sex, the ensuing awkwardness or embarrassment can also be relieved by good afterplay.

    In his book Secrets of Better Sex, Dr. Joel Block provides five “do’s and don’ts ” for enjoying afterplay

    • Don’t use afterplay as a “sexual postmortem.”
    • Don’t air sexual grievances or complaints.
    • Do use this intimate time to express sexual feelings, thoughts, and desires that you’ve not previously shared.
    • Don’t discuss problems with your job, your finances, or your children.
    • Do cuddle and caress for at least five minutes.
    • Do say “I love you’.”

    Want to prolong afterplay?

    You can avoid the following: jumping up to “wash off,” turning on the television, making phone calls, criticizing your partner’s performance, or making comparisons to previous partners.

    Another important consideration regarding afterplay is the timing of sex. If you usually have sex at night, your fatigue, in combination with the parasympathetic response of orgasm will reduce your energy for afterplay. Why not consider sex at different times of the day? Early morning sex is a great way to start the day, and “afternoon delight” is just that. That extra burst of energy may just allow you more room for dessert!

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    Reference:
    1. http://monticelloinstitute.com/
    2. Secrets of Better Sex, Dr. Joel Block

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  • Are gay men Sexually impulsive and compulsive

    Gay culture is often associated with promiscuity, acting on sexual impulses and difficulty in controlling sexual impulses. We gays, call the promiscuous phase of our gay life as the “Whore phase.” This phase usually lasts for couple of years after coming out of the closet. Sometimes, this phase lasts longer for some gay men. Some gay men are sexually impulsive and compulsive.

    Definition of sexually impulsive behavior and sexually compulsive behavior

    Some individuals have a great deal of difficulty controlling their sexual behavior. They have frequent intrusive thoughts about sex and repeatedly engage in sexual behavior that can become out of control. This can result in numerous problems –

    • sexually transmitted diseases
    • exposure to human immunodeficiency virus
    • legal consequences
    • problems in maintaining a relationship or a marriage
    • domestic violence

    Sexually impulsive behaviors which can include “acting out” sexually in illegal or inappropriate ways can be seen as being influenced by environmental triggers such as a sights, sounds and smells. With sexually impulsive behaviors, there is an inability to resist an impulse, tension before engaging in the sexual behavior and a sense of release upon exhibiting the sexual behavior.

    Sexually compulsive behaviors, or those behaviors that are sometimes characterized as hypersexual behaviors, can be seen as increased sexual thoughts and behaviors that can have negative or deleterious effects on an individual’s life. Rather than being triggered by environmental factors, sexually compulsive behaviors are often organic in nature.

    Alcohol and drugs can sometimes be seen as catalysts for these sexual behaviors because, as a rule, they can lower inhibitions and, as such, can lead to an increase in sexually impulsive behaviors that can be harmful to an individual or to others.

    The primary difference between those individuals who engage in sexually compulsive behaviors and those men who have active sex lives with multiple partners is that rather than thoroughly enjoying their sexuality and sexual activity on all levels, the individual is, instead, engaging in sexual behaviors to avoid feelings of tension and anxiety.

    Types of Impulsive-Compulsive Sexual Behavior

    Coleman has classified at least seven subtypes of impulsive-compulsive sexual behavior: compulsive cruising and multiple partners, compulsive fixation on an unattainable partner, compulsive autoeroticism (masturbation), compulsive use of erotica, compulsive use of the Internet for sexual purposes, compulsive multiple love relationships, and compulsive sexuality in a relationship.

    Coleman has identified seven types of impulsive-compulsive sexual behavior listed in Table 1 below. Click on image to enlarge.

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    Depending upon the circumstances driving the sexual thoughts and sexual behaviors, being either sexually impulsive or sexually compulsive are, in fact, two alternative ways to describe what is commonly referred to, in the nomenclature, as sexual addiction.

    How does a person’s being in a steady romantic relationship affect sexually impulsive or sexually compulsive behaviors?

    Because these hypersexual behaviors include a neurochemical reaction, the brain seeks ways to keep a steady flow of the neurochemicals that increase the very powerful sense of reward and pleasure. The sexual encounter that one would have with one’s partner or spouse cannot replicate the intensity and the duration of the neurochemical reaction that an individual would obtain from seeking sexual encounters outside the relationship.

    Whether viewing hours of pornographic imagery, engaging in lengthy online sexual chats or cyber-sexual video-chats, perusing online personals or phone apps for potential sexual partners or driving to meet individuals for sexual encounters, the individual is receiving a steady flow of these powerful neurochemicals and, because of the immense feeling of pleasure and reward, the brain wants these chemicals to continue to flow.

    Sexual addiction, therefore, is really about the “seeking” in that the brain is seeking a continuation of the neurochemical reaction for as long as possible. When we’re talking about sexual addiction we’re actually talking about an individual being addicted to their own neurochemistry.

    Reference: http:

    1. Coleman E. Is your patient suffering from compulsive sexual behavior? Psychiatr Ann. 1992;22:320-325.
      2. Coleman E. Compulsive Sexual Behavior: new concepts and treatments. J Psychol Hum Sex. 1991:4:37-52.
      3. Money J. Lovemaps: Clinical Concepts of Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition in Childhood, Adolescence and Maturity. New York, NY: Irvington Publishers; 1986.
      4. Bradford JM. The paraphilas, obsessive compulsive spectrum disorder and the treatment of sexually deviant behaviour. Psychiatr Q. 1999;70:209-219.

     

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  • 21 Things That I Hate About Gay Culture

    21 Things That I Hate About Gay Culture

    I have always viewed the world with rosy colored glasses and when I removed them, I realized that we live in a cynical world. A world that ostensibly seems to be inviting and accepting but in reality is judging and unforgiving. The ones who survive in this harsh world have survival tools that include: thick skin, fake laughter, fake smiles, fake tans, are masters at pretending to be someone different and of course like to label everyone they meet.

    I belong to the Gay minority. Gays represent around 8% of the total world population. While I am proud of being Gay, that is not the end of my story. There are so many things in the gay world that I hate.

    1. Maintenance and upkeep  Spending a substantial portion of your earning on gym, spa, waxing, skin care products and clothes seems like a norm. Trust me, gay men like to judge others based on appearance which is totally superficial.

    2. Dating is equivalent to sex  When you agree to go for a cuppa coffee or lunch with someone, it means “Hallelujah! I am gonna get lucky tonight!” to most gay men. Most gay men behave like dogs in heat and are sex starved. I have dated men who just wanted a good f*ck, they did not even pretend to get to know me or have a polite conversation.

    3. It’s a small world  This truly holds true for  the gay world.  New York City has been my home base for over a decade, even though I travel all over US for work. I have dated several men in NY and on several occasions, the men I met were the ex’s of my own ex’s. Imagine my horror and shock!

    4. Casual sex  We all go through “Whore Phase” but dropping your pants at any possible prospect is definitely not my cuppa tea. Let’s not forget that gays love to live on the edge and like barebacking. Me and Barebacking? HELL NO!

    5. Mirror, Mirror on the wall  Gay men never leave an opportunity to check their reflection, be it in their spoons, the sunshades, mirrors in their bags or any other place where they can check their reflection. Seriously, vanity is thy name, GAY!

    6. Apps Galore  Technology has made our life simpler, but I beg to differ. Gaydar, Grindr and similar apps, take away your privacy. I have been out on a first date with a few men whose phones kept vibrating and I realized that their Grindr apps were active and so were these men!

    7. Websites  What is wrong with most Gay men? Match.com has become the new craigslist and Linkedin has become the new match.com. People send me invites on professional network, Linkedin, so that they can exchange phone numbers, pictures and finally hook-up. WT* is wrong with gay world? I have been asked out on Linkedin, GROSS! I have pointed out to several men that dude, this is not manhunt account.

    8. Subgenres in Gay world  I am getting tired of labels and let me tell you that different subgenres of LGBT hate each other. The straight acting gays don’t get along with fem gays and queens. Muscle queens hate drag queens, etc. I am sure you get the picture.

    9. Fashion and fads  You would think that coming out of closet was an end to oppression, you ain’t got any idea about life after coming out of closet. There is a whole new level of oppression after coming out. Maintaining a toned body (I gained 10 lbs and am hence deemed a misfit in the gay world), going for BOTOX treatment in 20’s, keeping up with the trends, reading fashion magazines, bar hopping and knowing your drinks ( I have never done any of these things and I am considered a freak in the gay world), keeping up with new music and driving an expensive car, whether one can afford or not.

    10. Promiscuity  Whatever happened to fidelity, monogamy and loyalty in a relationship. You will catch your boyfriend cheating on you within 3 months of being together.

    11. Monogamy  The moment you tell your date that you are looking for a monogamous relationship and are willing to settle down with the right guy, he is terrorised. He runs away from you as fast as he can. Most guys don’t like being in monogamous relationships as they never stop believing that there is someone better than their current boyfriend.

    12. Exaggeration When a gay guy works at cash register at Target, he would say I work in retail. You refer to your last trick or last sexual escapade as “my ex.” Dick size of 5.5′ naturally becomes 7′.

    13. Older gay men  Older gay gentleman don’t acknowledge their age, in fact, all gay men lie about their age. Older gays still think that they can hook up or find a younger gay man for relationship. They think of themselves as mentors but end up becoming sugar daddies.

    14. Haters  Being gay is all about being thick skinned as there are haters outside and within the gay community. It’s hard to deal with homophobes and some homosexuals have internalized homophobia, that is really hard to deal with.

    15. Gaycation and cruises  Some gay men continue to party well beyond their 40’s and 50’s. They never grow up. Okay, I have been asked out by a 72 year old man who wanted to take me on a cruise (I was 29 at that time), while I just met him at a friend’s party. I didn’t know how to react as I was shocked and amused. I politely refused his offer and I still laugh at this incident.

    16. Rude gay men  Most gay men whom I have met are plain rude. They seem to lack courtesy and have a very standoffish attitude. Its hard to have gay friends as all of them seem to be competing with one another.

    17. Cute guys are in demand  The average gay guy is normal looking but crazy for cute and hot gay guys. Gays don’t react and respond to average looking gay men. Looks and appearance are on the top of priority list. It seems so shallow.

    18. Lies  Being versatile essentially means that you can bottom in 10 different positions.

    19. Not many tops  Biggest challenge in gay world is scarcity of tops.

    20. Alcohol, smoking and substance abuse  It seems so common in the gay world that I can’t stand it. I am a non-smoker and don’t drink and have never done drugs.

    21. Drama  Gay life is full of drama, heartaches, ex issues, sexual abuse, substance abuse and cheating and seriously, I am just not comfortable with so much sh*t.

    I am tired of being judged and being physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually healthy is important but I don’t want to look like a disaster of plastic surgery and feel like Sh*t. HELL NO!

    Is there anything you hate about gay world, comment below and don’t forget to subscribe and share this article.

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