Author: Addison Lane

  • Things To Consider Before Being An Escort

    Things To Consider Before Being An Escort

    Good question…. Be honest with yourself about what the job entails. Decide what you are prepared to do and not prepared to do. If you believe french kissing is too personal on the job so you won’t be offering it, that is totally your choice. What your boundaries are may change, but it is better to go slow on this one.

    Talk to someone who has been part of the industry for at least 5 years, if not longer. New Zealand has the New Zealand Prostitute Collective which not only offers advice but a free starter kit and a safe space to talk to other working girls, as well as a little shop for all your supplies.

    Decide if you will work whilst you have your period or not.

    Think about who you will tell and who you won’t about your new job choice. I have been disowned by two people of the small group of people I chose to tell. However I have gained close allies in the industry which has made it easier to bear being disowned.

    Think about if you want to work as a private escort or work for somebody. Or if you want to work at a club. Working in New Zealand as a private escort appears to be much easier than in Australia, so this might be something you need to research about. Go and talk to the girls at a potential place of work and see what the atmosphere is like. Talk to the person who runs the rooms and work out what working environment is going to work best for you. I know girls who work in a club as well as privately, and others who work privately in New Zealand and in brothels in Australia. The combination allows more income, as well as being able to see regular clients. So find out what will work for you.

    Have a STD and HIV checkup before you start working and then once every three months. Your health is your everything. If you get sick or develop an STD, you are the one losing money because your health is compromised. Look after yourself, see yourself as an investment, because you and your health are your job.

    Put together a bag or suitcase of what you need for a booking. To start, I only had two sets of lingerie, a fancy dress, heels, make up, condoms, lube, a list of what I was offering and my prices (unless you are working for someone). Then once you are a few bookings in, I treated myself to a new lingerie set and some nicer heels. It’s a wonderful excuse to go shopping!

    Photos, photos, photos! Visual is all important in this industry but spend within your budget and upgrade as you go. My friend took mine to get me started and three months into working I got a photographer to take ten new ones. You can spend lots of money or you can go mid-priced but you need photos and remember, they are what your client spends most of his/her time looking at before booking you. I’ve been booked by someone who hadn’t even read my profile – no surprise really lol.

    Also think about advertising and research what is available. If you are working for someone then they may include advertising in the arrangement. As a private escort, I have tried a variety of advertising techniques from NZ Girls, to Ted, to free advertising. At the moment, I do most of my advertising on Cracker with the support of free advertising from the NZ Pleasures and Girl4U. My friend swears by NZ Girls, as do a number of girls I have spoken to, however it is about find what/who works best for you.

    Read part I on What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort here http://simplysxy.com/articles/2018/01/07/being-an-escort/


    Addison Lane – Addison is a woman of sensuality, curiosity and pleasure. She loves giving pleasure as much as she loves receiving it. Educated in a variety of faculty’s, when she’s not at work, she is continuing her art practice along with her passion for music.

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    Twitter: https://twitter.com/addisonlane_nz
    Website: www.addisonlanenz.com


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  • What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort

    What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort

    I initially considered escorting as an job option because of the money, I love sex and the hours were flexible. But it did take me three months of reading and talking to people at the New Zealand Prostitute’s Collective before I was certain it was what I wanted to do.

    What really kick started things for me was a friend who shared her story with me and then went on to guide me through my first two days. It was the best introduction one could ask for – my friend answered all my questions, helped me write my first advert, took my photos and equipped me with pretty much everything I needed to continue working when she continued her tour. I consider myself pretty lucky to have had such a good introduction into being a working girl.

    What Does Being An Escort Involve?

    At first, the double persona and the excessive amount of texts and/or phone calls are a bit intense to adjust to. But after abit, one adjusts and manages to breathe more easily.

    For me, this meant  I have gotten pretty organised and can do my makeup a lot faster than previously. I find I enjoy my clients more now – I don’t feel so rushed or nervous these days.

    I really enjoy being an escort in most cases. I really enjoy the physical contact, the compliments, meeting new clients and spending time with each unique client. The best bookings are when the client is into pleasing me as much as I am into pleasing him/her.

    What does it involve? I think most people know what it involves so I’ll tell  you some things I didn’t know were involved before I joined the industry…

    A lot of girls offer the Girlfriend Experience but that doesn’t mean you are allowed to kiss the girl. That’s what a girlfriend does doesn’t she? You need to check on that! It depends on the girl.

    Showering with your client before or after or both is definitely something easy to add to your service that offers a lot of delight to your client.

    Age seems to be a huge factor in how many bookings you get.

    Unfortunately, you will be asked weird questions from potential clients and some clients think it’s okay to verbally abuse the working girl.

    You can get a booking anytime of the day – including 2am, 4am or some other crazy hour.

    There are some crazy acronyms out there but it doesn’t hurt to learn a few relevant to the sex industry.

    Misconceptions About Escorting

    Common misconceptions about working girls tend to be around judgments of girls and their personal life. I think it depends what town, city and country you are working in, but being in New Zealand, where it is legal to be an escort, there appears to be a heated debate about the pros and cons of legalisation. I initially thought legalisation was an all positive move, but hearing both sides of the story proves that there is no one solution for all.

    Another misconception is around working girls are drug or alcohol addicts, single and come from the “wrong side of the track” but my view shows this can’t be further from the truth. Work girls are friends, sisters, mothers, daughters, the girl next door and sometimes not the HOT chick on the bus every night. Working girls are no longer squashed to the outskirts of society and they definitely have legal rights.

    I see and hear a lot of working girls standing up for their rights, believing in themselves, and sticking to their own  personal morals whether it means work or no work. This is empowerment and it’s really great to see. Everyone from the working girl beside her to all of her clients benefit from this positive approach to working in the industry and seeing the industry trying to clean itself up.

    I think men who book working girls have very little knowledge to how the industry works though. And maybe that is something they don’t want to think about, especially when they have to choose which girl to book 🙂

    And that filters into the clients and how they treat and perceive working girls so I think there are less negative misconceptions about working girls and more about the industry where men don’t have much of an idea how the industry works or is run and how that affects the girls on that side of things.

    But because we are talking about humans, I think we need to remember, this is my experience to date, my perception. And others have different experiences and perceptions so we need to keep talking. Interviews carried out by SimplySxy and other organisations help keep it real.


    Addison Lane – Addison is a woman of sensuality, curiosity and pleasure. She loves giving pleasure as much as she loves receiving it. Educated in a variety of faculty’s, when she’s not at work, she is continuing her art practice along with her passion for music.

    Follow Addison Lane on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/addisonlane_nz
    Websites:

    Cracker (previously Backpage)

    http://wellington.cracker.com/FemaleEscorts/buxon-babe-sexy-and-naughty-xx/4138407

    NZ Pleasures

    https://eroticescortsnz.co.nz/listing/addison-lane/

    www.girl4u.co

    http://www.girl4u.co/girls/female-escort/addison-lane-private-escort-wellington-central-1611.html

    You will find Addison in Wellington most days. She has toured to Auckland and Christchurch but Wellington is home at the moment.


    Images courtesy of Addison Lane

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