Personally? Don’t take it for face value because it’s extremely hard out here. Understand it’s an extremely saturated market and there’s so many Dommes to pick from so you won’t always find subs into you. From my experience, a sub could choose someone over you because they don’t like your feet, your Domme style, or even your aesthetic. I’ve even noticed that not every sub will consider themselves a ‘finsub’. There’s a lot of exploring and personal growth on their behalf in this area before they consider themselves truly one. What with creating original content, updating our social media, and keeping up with research it’s definitely not for the weak of heart newbies.
Past the hustle, it’s very fun and can be a lucrative place. It’s definitely a niche fetish, and depending on the sub’s other fetishes or kinks, it can be seen as ‘extreme’ to certain folks. Yes, money is a huge center of it but I can assure you the real Dommes still follow the safe, sane, and consensual rule. We want our subs to feel happy and complete to be serving us in a space we’ve created together.
Reasons Sub Seek A Findom
Ultimate financial control and submission. Some have inferiority complexes, and they get off on knowing someone who is better looking, or overall in a better life is benefiting from their own existence. Some want to ultimately spoil and gift people because they like that Domme for who they are and what they offer. While some seek out a Domme to control every financial aspect, budget for them, and keep bank passwords/info from their irresponsible hands. The list is endless…
What I Look For In A Sub
A sub who tributes first before anything else is discussed. A sub has to be honest, committed and open about what their limits are. If a sub says they have no limits and will send their entire life savings I have to tread cautiously. Both with making sure they’re mentally stable and that even if they did that I wouldn’t be destroying them entirely. I also don’t particularly judge or discriminate a sub based on their earnings. Prove you can serve by tributes or reimbursements and you can serve the majority of us. At the end of the day, I do my most to make sure they leave better than when they came to me.
4 Rules For Subs To Follow
Aah, we’ll be here awhile if I gave you the full list, haha! So here’s a handful:
1. Respect your Goddess always.
2. Pay what is due to your Goddess.
3. Your servitude and devotion is mine and mine alone. Period.
4. Speak up if you need to take a break from findom. (Mental health is very IMPORTANT)
Punishment For Misbehavior
Honestly, it depends. Not every punishment is alike and I base it around the fetish or kink associated with that particular sub. It could be so easy as commanding them to hit their balls with an implement while you watch and record it for “blackmail”. Or publicly exposing the sub by having them come out in pubic sissified, essentially walking them around like a doll. Perhaps lose some chastity keys, oops. Different strokes for different folks, you know? 😉
Goddess Lorelei – I consider myself a Soft or Gentle Domme with a good side helping of strict. Underestimating me would be your first mistake. My time is only for those willing to devote and serve without hesitation. If you ever find yourself in my path approach respectfully—also, coffee accompanying with your tribute will get an instant stamp of approval.
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