I absolutely love foreplay and feel it is one of the most vital aspects of a mind blowing sexual experience. In fact, for me foreplay starts even before seeing my partner. Of course with the demands of life and busy schedules, it is unfortunately something that gets brushed aside, often leading to less frequent intercourse between partners. With a little extra attention though, it’s a very fun problem to remedy.
How Long Should Foreplay Ideally Last?
This is a tough question for me, because I don’t think there is a concrete answer here. Going back to the idea of foreplay starting before seeing your partner, I include the time it takes to set the mood. When I‘m picking out the perfect toy or just the right lingerie to wear for my lover, the anticipation is building and that to me is foreplay. I personally think 15-20 minutes is the minimum amount of time that should be spent on physical foreplay behind closed doors. (Of course exceptions can be made when you find yourself and your partner alone in an elevator!)
Body Parts Not To Be Missed During Foreplay
Everyone is different of course and if there is no time constraint I feel as many body parts as possible should be included. Running your nails lightly over someones’ back, lightly kissing their ears, or massaging someone’s feet are just a few ideas. I will say for me personally, my neck is just as important as the more obvious body parts.
Essential Tips For Good Foreplay
My first piece of advice here is to set the mood. Dinner, maybe a glass of bubbly, or a simple back rub can help you and your partner relax and leave the worries of the real world behind. Detaching from our responsibilities and taking a moment for ourselves can be difficult for most people. Give yourself permission to do something good for yourself and be in the moment.
My other piece of advice is to start with a light touch when you’re first getting to know your partner in the bedroom. Guys in general like a stronger touch than most ladies and tend to start that way. Remember, just because you enjoy a harder touch doesn’t mean she will. Start slow and pay attention to the signals he/she is sending you.
Lastly, mix things up. Maybe one night you start with a massage and the next time you watch some porn together. It’s easy to fall into a rut with work and family obligations, but taking the time to purchase a new toy or some sexy lingerie will help keep the spark alive and give you both something new to look forward to.
Do Men Underestimate Foreplay?
In general I feel younger guys don’t always understand what foreplay can encompass, but a more mature gentleman usually appreciates it’s importance. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had the fortune of meeting some great guys in their 20’s, but it’s usually guys over 35 who go the extra mile as far as setting the scene. I feel a younger crowd only regards foreplay as being strictly physical when in fact it’s much more.
Ways To Prolong Foreplay
Well, going back to the idea that foreplay starts before getting into the bedroom, a shared adventure or new experience is always a fun way to start. Once at home, I enjoy teasing immensely, both giving and receiving. Bringing my partner to the edge and then backing off is something I can never get enough of.
As far as when the right time is to move on, if I’m with a guy for me, it’s usually right after the third time he gets close. If I’m with a lady and she can orgasm multiple times, I usually like to wait until after the second O. A little wait time is good, but too much can be frustrating.
Bri Sands – Bri Sands is a luxury provider based out Las Vegas. In a previous life she was an educator, but made a lifestyle change over four years ago and hasn’t looked back since. Ms. Sands has done fetish films and worked as an erotic dancer, but finds the most joy in getting to know her clients on much more intimate level. Having taken a step back from touring about a year ago, she does still frequent New York and is available worldwide by appointment.
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