I think of sex work as a business that builds connections between provider and client. Yes, it can be a good way to make money, but some of the connections can last for a long time. Even the short connections can be beneficial in some way. Everyone needs connections whether physically or mentally, shorter, or on a more regular basis…
Starting Out Into Sex Work
I worked as a waitress in a strip club for a short time and decided to dance at amateur night. I enjoyed it and toured quite a bit. I got invited to also work at a massage parlor. I did these two jobs for a few years. The massage parlor eventually changed to an outcall escort service. I stayed and loved it.
Many of my first clients were from strip clubs or through the service. A client led me to some online forums so I stopped dancing and eventually went out on my own as an independent girlfriend experience. Now I have a regular career but I have still done companionship on the side. It’s a great social outlet for me…like dating with boundaries.
Does Sex Work Affect Non-Sex Work Relationships?
It definitely can. Not everyone agrees with it. Most people I meet would never think that it is something I do. For the most part I have kept a great set of friends who couldn’t care less. I am open with everyone about it. Some family members have judgements but they just don’t talk about it and that’s fine. I prefer not to date while doing sex work. I feel that it makes it harder to make connections with my clients. Some guys even have issues and judge you if they know you had done it in the past.
Separating My Personal & Sex Work Life
I keep most aspects of sex work separate from my personal life. I book things in advance and have specific days that I market and advertise myself, or do my website and emails, etc. I, of course, have separate email addresses and phone numbers. When I tour I always leave time for me to do other things. I like to see the city and area where I am visiting. Since I have a regular career, I cannot be available for sex work all of the time. My persona is all me though. I keep my same personality and share that with my clients.
Typical Myths About Sex Work
I think because of social stigma, people think of sex workers as manipulators who always want or need something from someone. They aren’t all drug addicts or party girls or liars. Many have very typical home lives and take care of families. Many have regular careers or go to school. And many like being in sex work. It’s not some chore they use to only get paid. Most don’t need to be saved.
What To Know Before Going Into Sex Work
Treat sex work as a business even if you like it. You can do that and still be nice and personable with clients. Honesty and consistency are important to be good in sex work but you want to keep your personal life separate to avoid sloppiness. Once lines get blurred, it can become messy and stressful.
Cocos Butter – I am the Midwest Minx. Provocateur, network engineer, foodie, traveler, tour guide, and all around girlfriend experience who loves to explore. I have a mixture of complicated interests with simple tastes. My regular career takes me around the world and I love to share my experiences! Your imagination is my only limitation!
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