Sex work gave me my life back. Before working as an escort, I was at risk of losing my home and being unable to continue my studies. My depression was at its worst, my confidence was weak and I felt my life had no direction. These are all things that people would associate with somebody doing sex work but for me, it pulled me out of those lows. It was my saviour.
I think it is very important to make clear distinctions between sex work and trafficking. Trafficking is slavery and is not sex work. That is not what we are talking about here. The narrative must change. I am loved, I am not a drug addict, and I am my own boss.
What Made Me Decide To Get Into Sex Work
I started escorting in the beginning for the quick cash when regular working routes failed me. I have two degrees, and studying for my third. I had plenty of experience and am an excellent candidate but the job market can be fickle and I had bills to pay. A friends’ girlfriend was a call girl and he thought I’d do well and could learn from her. She is intelligent and articulate so I met up with her for a coffee, and the rest is history!
Was Sex Work What You Thought It Was?
What took me by surprise was how suited I am and in many ways, it’s my perfect career. All my skills fit perfectly and I truly feel satisfied and rewarded as a proud business woman.
Initially, I worried about the dangers. Unfortunately some workers do get attacked, but I have had more incidents and assaults in my personal dating life than anything at ‘work’.
I didn’t realise how kind some of my clients would be and how much I would change their lives for the better. At first, I thought selling sex was about sexual gratification but it is so much more than that. It’s about connection and intimacy, to be touched by another. We are selling escapism and release in more ways than one, not just hand jobs.
Challenges I Face As A Sex Worker
The main challenge I face is the stigma around sex work. Some men don’t want to date me personally for their own insecurities but even some feminists feel we are playing against them. Others think we are dirty or virtueless. We are people, we have lovers, families and friends.
An annoying assumption is that this work is easy or a get rich quick scheme. It is many things but easy is not one of them, and although my business is building, money isn’t the driving force. I continue to do this line of work because I enjoy it. I feel high levels of job satisfaction and maybe one day I’ll be able to buy my own apartment.
Clients are normal everyday men you see in your life. They aren’t all perverts on the edge of society. Husbands, fathers, sons, businessmen. You probably know some without realising it. Many men have paid for sex, but are also worried about being labelled. Majority of whom value the companionship provided with respect and care.
How Competitive Is The Sex Work Industry?
Sex work has given me access to a community of incredible strong supportive women and men whom I now call friends. The industry can be competitive depending on where you work. In every corner of the world, there are various styles and types of sex work, but the community has been incredibly welcoming, uplifting and supportive. We are here together and try to keep each other safe. As much as we are all selling sex, our approach, methods and style are all different giving us our unique selling point. I like to think there is room for all of us.
What Clients Should Know Before Engaging A Sex Worker
Clients should know to do some research on their provider before choosing one, simply because we all offer different things. They may need to pass screening and/or pay deposits. They must shower and arrive fresh to their appointment. We are not interested in ‘outing’ them to their families or colleagues – that’s bad for business and discretion is a priority, we just want to keep safe and have a good time.
Kate Bouvier – High-Class Escort offering companionship bookings to distinguished gentlemen in Madrid, Spain. A proud Sex Worker, passionate about ending violence against women and keeping the community safe, Kate speaks openly to end stigma around the profession.
Whether you are seeking a dinner date or attending a work function, British Kate genuinely adores meeting new people and would love to accompany you for the evening during your trip. Or perhaps you are a companion yourself, Kate would love to hear from you to share stories over a glass of wine.
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