Sex is another way of expressing yourself and getting to know someone else. I’ve always felt like it was a language between two people that I was fascinated in becoming fluent in. To become fluent in this kind of thing, you have to be completely honest with yourself and your partner. There’s something romantic about that and romance was never devoid in me especially in my kinkier encounters.
I try hard to become someone that people can open up to. I find myself thriving in these little secrets I can hold with my partners about how we feel to each other or what new adventures we want to have with each other.
How Important Foreplay Is To Me
Foreplay can make sex last longer and feel much better for both and all individuals involved. I remember one time, when being intimate with this man in college, we spent hours just massaging each other and exploring each other before finally having sex in his dorm literally three hours later. We both began shaking and excited to finally be having sex.
It’s not only fun and feels good but it’s like the best kind of edging before that actual moment of sex happens. Every part of that
Is It True That Men Don’t Get Foreplay?
100% a myth.
I think some men might get a little over eager and want to skip the process of foreplay – which is a mistake – but by no means does that mean that men don’t enjoy it. It’s a common misconception that foreplay only includes a woman receiving pleasure. I think that idea doesn’t include kinkier foreplay or the various ways that a man can feel stimulation from just touching.
Although I do have to admit that light touching and massaging always gives me way more goose bumps and makes me squirm more than any partner I’ve ever had. But I’m quite sensitive to touch in general.
Does Foreplay Lead To Better Sex?
No matter what two individuals are having sex (or more if you’re into group sex) and no matter what kind of sex you’re having, foreplay ALWAYS makes it better. As I said earlier, it’s like edging but someone else is doing it for you.
What Women Want During Foreplay
Foreplay’s kind of a funny thing to define because in a lot of ways, sex can be non-penetrating so it’s interesting to think about what foreplay means to different individuals. To me, it’s anything that is building up and stimulating.
So even in kink play, it could be the light touching of a flogger down someone’s body before quickly snapping it onto them. For a GFE type visit, it could just be the kissing and undressing before we continue to help each other orgasm.
Every woman is different so I can’t generalize in exactly what they want. But I think everyone enjoys some sort of comfort prior to having an intimate night together. Holding each other, kissing, and other forms of light touching and cuddling are all good methods
The idea of foreplay is not just to build up the moment but also to reassure that safety with each other before becoming completely vulnerable. The more time you take to build that trust and intimacy, the more we both can relax as we undo our fantasies with each other.
Common Foreplay Mistake Made By Men
I can’t stress enough how the biggest mistake is just going too fast. Don’t rush things. The more time we spend on making each other comfortable, wet, and ready, the better the date will be.
Aubrey Singer – I’m a young aspiring dreamer and lover. I am obsessed with film and the arts which means I cherish creativity and romance. I can be a sensual lover and a wonderful roleplayer. A true pervert, I love smut and vintage porn lover which explains my collection of wonderful kink-friendly and gfe videos, I’ve made special for you.
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