What It’s Like To Be A Lifestyle Domme

My subs must understand they are here for me, to please me and create value in my life, otherwise I am not interested to spend my time dominating them. It’s really simple and straight-forward. Those who want a NSA service should go to a pro domme.

How My Interest As A Domme Started

I was just curious about alternative lifestyles in general and bored of my 9 to 5 jobs.

What It Means To Be A Lifestyle Domme

I suppose that´s what I have wanted all along but to earn money I had to see clients in the hope that some of them might become my real slaves which eventually happened. After about ten years on the scene I decided to retire as a pro domme as I was bored of the clients and wanted to focus on the selected few personal slaves.

Difference From Being A Pro Domme

It´s completely different. You see whom you want, when you want and do only what you want and many of the personal slaves are quite generous. Unlike clients who only tribute by the hour my real slaves pay for my spa, weekends away, gifts etc on top of the monetary tributes and the best thing is that most of them stay with me for years.

Favorite Domme Play Sessions

I always challenge myself to come with something new for the individual slave as I love to surprise, impress and create something memorable. Mind games tend to play bigger role than the physical domination.

What To Know Before Being A Lifestyle Domme

It is actually very hard to find genuine subs who aim to please. Most wannabe slaves just want to take advantage of the dominant female, especially an inexperienced one in order to get something for nothing. It´s always the same old story “I will do anything for you but not this or that and God forbid it should cost me something – you are here to service me and my needs and kinks”.

You will learn fast enough to weed these timewasters out. If anyone refers to himself as a “worm” or “useless”, he very likely is and you certainly don´t want to have anything to do with him.

Mistress Arella – Retired after ten years on the scene as a pro domme, now dominating my loyal personal slaves only and that´s how I like it. It´s hard to impress me but anyone can try.

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