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What It’s Like Having A Swinger Lifestyle

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What It’s Like Having A Swinger Lifestyle

Sex is a wonderful thing! I think it is important for adults to explore their sexuality and maintain an active (safe) sex life. It is great for your physical, mental, and emotional health. When I’m having great sex, my life improves in all areas!

What It Means To Be A Swinger

An open-minded person who pursues fun, playful, and flirtatious friendships, which are often, but not always, of a sexual nature. Swingers understand that sex and love are not the same thing and can be enjoyed separately and without jealousy. For me being a swinger lets me open up about sex and celebrate it instead of being ashamed.

I got into swinging through my husband who was in the lifestyle before we got together. We were best friends for about 4 years before we got together so I already knew about his sex life and he knew about mine. At first I thought I could never be with anyone else or see him with anyone else but we talked about it a lot, and he never pushed, and eventually I found myself wanting to know more. Right before we got married we slowly starting easing into the lifestyle.

Rules & Boundaries In A Swinging Lifestyle

First of all honesty!

Second, if you have problems in your relationship, that is not the time to start in the lifestyle. Other than that each couple comes up with their own rules. When we first started, we had a no kissing rule and we only played when we were both present.

Now our only rule is to wear condoms NO MATTER WHAT! We would not do anything without discussing it with the other person first but that is kind of an unspoken rule. I also think it’s best to not have sexual relations with anyone you see in your everyday life.

How Swinging Has Changed My Life

Before swinging I was not very open about sex. I would keep my fantasies to myself and I wasn’t as open to trying new things. Swinging has made my marriage so much stronger! We have this incredible bond that is so special to us. We have amazing trust and communication. Plus, there is nothing sexier than seeing your partner please another person, or them getting turned on by hearing all about your slutty adventures.

Advice For Beginners Into Swinging

My advice would be to go at your own pace. Explore and find out what you both like and are comfortable with. There are a lot of parties that allow you to be voyeurs (just watch). Majority of swingers will not be pushy and will work with your comfort zone. Make sure you have established rules before you begin and you can re-evaluate regularly.


Ivy Secret – I am a new adult film actress and fetish model. I’m loving every minute of this new and exciting journey. I love sex and everything that goes along with it.

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Ivy Secret

I am a new adult film actress and fetish model. I’m loving every minute of this new and exciting journey. I love sex and everything that goes along with it.

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