Every now and then things can get quite boring in a relationship. You know the feeling when you already know what will happen because it happened so many times before? Well, that’s exactly the point where relationships start to suffocate.
If two love birds don’t recognize it and act accordingly, it may be the very end for them; let’s face it, no one likes boring stuff. This applies especially to one part of a relationship ‑ sex. Therefore, according to performance insiders, most men try and seek for a solution; like Kegel exercises for men, for an example; and they do all of that they can in order to be better in bed.
Although it isn’t and shouldn’t be the center of a relationship, sexual intercourse is very important as it has the power to bring two people closer together, or separate them far away. Kegel exercises may help a man last longer, but even so, your sex might still be boring and feel the same; it will only last longer.
Complications in a relationship may even lead to ED (short for erectile dysfunction). To make things worse, according to Consumer Health Digest, this may trigger all of the erectile dysfunction types. And you know what? ED is a man’s worst enemy; his scarecrow. If you want to know why all that you need to do is check this medical research (one of many) and realize how frequent and devastating ED really is.
So, what can you do to avoid getting dumped, refresh your relationship and avoid ED (at least avoid this possibility)? Luckily for you, this article will give you some ideas; 9 of them, to be precise.
9 Naughty Ideas that Will Boost Your Relationship
If your sex life became dull, maybe all that you need to do is change one aspect of it ‑ foreplay. If didn’t practice foreplay before, you absolutely must include it to your “game”. As we can see from this research, both men and women love and need foreplay in order to get them into the right mood for sexual intercourse.
So, here are top 9 things you have to try in order to step up your foreplay game! Let’s check them out.
- New Sex Positions
Okay, seriously now, if you haven’t experimented with your partner (of course, this applies to those of you who are with your partners for a long period of time), what are you waiting for?!
You can’t possibly expect your partner to feel satisfied only with one or two poses each and every time you have sex. On top of that, YOU will feel better if you try something new out as well.
What you can do is tease the pose before sex. Try something similar in a “dry hump” way. So yes, the key here is ‑ be open-minded and experiment.
- Dress up
Another way to bring some heat to your sex life is the popular “cosplay”. You can visit a Sex Shop near you or simply be creative and try something on. You can also get into roles of your characters.
For an example, she can be a teacher and you can be a student; or vise versa. As you can see, you have to be creative for this one as well.
It wouldn’t be a bad idea to talk to your loved one about what or who she/him wants to see you dress up as.
- Talk During Sex
Forget about feeling embarrassed! This one needs you to let yourself go and feel for once, not think!
What is very important in sex is the talk; not just the touch. It is a known fact that men love when women talk to them during sex (about how good it is or something similar; definitely not the negative talk, of course). So, it would be good to “sweet talk” yourselves during your foreplay.
Of course, you can and should do it while you are having sex as well.
- Massage Each Other
Massages are excellent ways of relaxing the mind and the body. That’s what sex stands for as well, right?
So, why not mix the two. As we can learn from this medical research, massages have their own way of dealing with our psyche and relaxing us (something that feels like meditation).
A fine way of spicing things up between you two is the Nuru massage. The Nuru massage is different from the rest, as you two will be massaging one another at the same time. Did I mention that you would be doing that completely naked on a mattress, and covered in special oils? Oh well…
- Buy Beverages
One of the best ways to get your blood pumping is to buy some alcohol and food before you have sex. Make a nice atmosphere, drink a few glasses of vine, for an example, and then proceed to the sack.
- Send Sexy Messages
Before you actually meet up and jump “to it”, try sending some sexy messages or sexy calls. This will heat the moment up even more and make both of you excited for the real deal.
- Decorate your “place of wonder”
This one goes extremely well with number 6 from the list. To be honest, everything goes with everything, but make sure not to mix it up too much!
Think about what your partner would like (or what both of you would like), where your partner wants to go and try and mimic that place by decorating your room.
- Watch sex before actual sex and buy some props before sex
You can watch a movie that has sexual scenes in it, or simply watch porn together. This way both of you will be heated up and ready for the main dish.
I know that visiting a sex shop may be difficult and embarrassing in most cases, but this is serious; you want to save your relationship and bring something fresh to it. It would be good to talk to your partner about what he/she wants and isn’t afraid to use.
- Play with your partner’s body
Think of this as of art. Don’t just meet up to have sex. Try and appreciate your partner and please his/her body. If you focus on the “sweet” spots and take some time for that before sex, the main event will look way better.
The Final Verdict
This would be it for this article. Now that you have a general idea about what to do, well, go for it!
Like I have said, you can mix things up (not more than three)! The whole “science” behind this lays in your imagination. Figure out what your partner likes and lusts for and try to give that to him or her.
Some points from this list require mutual trust and communication, so don’t rush into all of them without talking about them with your partner. Good luck!
References:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1071543/
Kegel Exercises For Men: How Kegel Exercises Will Transform Your Sex Life?
17 of the Best Naughty Ideas to Spice Up Married Sex
https://www.consumerhealthdigest.com/male-sexual-health/erectile-dysfunction-types.html
Ben Arnold – Ben Arnold is a freelance writer and a health and beauty adviser. He has been giving beauty and fitness advice to thousands of people all around the globe. Through his advanced studies, he has gain enormous experience in nutrition and healthy diet. His articles have a source on personal and practical experience. Apart from health, he likes reading books and listening music in free time. You can follow him on Facebook, Google +, Twitter, StumbleUpon and Pinterest
Featured image courtesy of Shutterstock
Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!
