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What It Means To Be A Switch In BDSM

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What It Means To Be A Switch In BDSM

As I’m living an alternative lifestyle, being a porn star and a legal courtesan, I think it is safe to say that I fully embrace it. As long as the Kink and lifestyle is consensual and all parties derive pleasure from the experience – I am all for it.

What It’s Like Being A Switch

Over time I have learned that, while I am a natural submissive, I also thoroughly enjoy being a Domme. Since I enjoy, and seek out both roles, I am a “Switch”. I found I can cum, just from being spanked. I found that I really get off on tying someone up and pushing their boundaries. I enjoy having my own boundaries pushed and pushing those of my partner. I would hate to be locked into one role. Switching from my natural sub role, to one of Domme gave me a new respect for that role; I never realized how much work and responsibility went into being a good Domme. When you are the sub, doing tasks at your Domme’s direction, you tend to feel that you are the one doing all the work – I learned that pushing another’s boundaries takes a lot of care and insight. Coming up with tasks, punishments, and rewards requires thought and effort.

Preference For Being A Dominant Or Submissive?

That is a hard call. If you would have asked me a few years ago I would have answered without hesitation “submissive” … but now that I’ve discovered what a turn on it is being Domme, it is harder to decide. I can cum from being spanked or flogged however, so I think I would have to say my preference is still sub.

Common Desires As A Domme

It varies depending on the sub I’m with, what I like doing is finding and pushing the edges of their boundaries. It is exciting being a part of expanding their horizons.

Characteristics Of A Good Sub

First and foremost, they have to be aware of their own limits, that have to be able to communicate, even more they have to be comfortable communicating, they have to feel free letting the Domme know when a limit has been reached, their musts have and not be afraid to use safe words. They have to know that using a safe word will not itself lead to a punishment. I guess I can sum up the answer with a single word: Communication.

Is Being A Switch Easy?

I wouldn’t say it is easy, but it is very rewarding.


Catrina Costa – Get to know the woman behind the smile. Your fantasy is my pleasure, come be my VIP. I enjoy getting to know people, am quirky, and love to laugh. I believe sex is natural, an adventure, and something everyone deserves to experience, to enjoy, and to explore. Whether it be through companionship as a courtesan, or through my erotic films, I like to share this exploration and adventure with others. Some might consider it my mission.

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Catrina Costa

Get to know the woman behind the smile. Your fantasy is my pleasure, come be my VIP. I enjoy getting to know people, am quirky, and love to laugh. I believe sex is natural, an adventure, and something everyone deserves to experience, to enjoy, and to explore. Whether it be through companionship as a courtesan, or through my erotic films, I like to share this exploration and adventure with others. Some might consider it my mission.

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