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What You Should Know About Attraction & Intimacy

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What You Should Know About Attraction & Intimacy

Intimacy, more than just a playful romp, is a deep, carnal knowledge, understanding and appreciation of another person. Where sex can absolutely be a frivolous and light hearted affair, an intimate experience with another person goes beyond frivolity, and beyond light heartedness – it can be playful and tender, with an ebb and flow that makes time appear to simultaneously stand still and flash forward, leaving only vingettes beyond in the mind – but both parties walk away with an understanding that they were for a moment a part of something special, bigger than themselves and their individual desires.

In my opinion, intimacy is the process of falling into synergy with a person. Both of you contribute something essential to the interaction, but the shared feeling of closeness and mutual liking, the sense of having found a kindred spirit you can now possess wholly, for a moment, adds something magical and unfathomable to the interaction. In many ways, it makes every new encounter a gamble- you never know if you’re about to meet someone you just click with. It’s the intermittent reinforcement of new encounters that makes them so dangerously addictive, right up until you find that person you don’t want to risk not meeting again.

What I Notice In A Guy For The First Time

First impressions are important for everyone, whether we admit it or not – making snap judgements is something the brain has evolved to do, and bases a lot of future inferences on. As far as first impressions go, I tend to take note of the way someone presents themselves, both mentally and physically. Physically – good hygiene and thought out style. Not necessarily formal wear, but whether someone’s dress looks like it has been considered, and whether they appear to take good care of themselves.

Mentally – whether they speak (or write) with good grammar and coherency to their thought. All in all, if it appears that a well thought out effort to impress a new acquaintance has been made, I take note. Nobody wants to feel like an afterthought, and putting in effort into your presentation, indicating that you care about my opinion of you, will take you a long way with me.

What Can A Guy Do To Impress You?

The name of the game here is consideration and engagement. On the one hand, he should be careful to respect my boundaries and not delve into topics too personal for a first meeting – a good understanding of appropriate social behavior and how it translates to the boudoir is helpful here. If he shows an interest in my having a good time, encourages my enjoyment of our date, and is overall polite, well mannered, and considerate of my time, chances are I will find it easy to loosen up and make the most out of the night. On the other, a healthy dose of flirting, wit, and playfulness is well appreciated. I like someone who engages me mentally, and banter is a wonderful way to do that. If the date is going well and we build rapport quickly, gentle teasing is welcome – I like a man who can challenge me, as long as it’s all in good fun.

How A Guy Can Keep You Interested

A big part of keeping someone interested is being an interesting person to begin with – self-actualization, and being a thoughtful, reflective person often yield engaging subject matter to talk about. The other part comes down to being a good listener – watching for positive, open body language and even flow of the conversation. Communication is a two way street, and both parties should be contributing equally. That being said, the onus of keeping someone interested doesn’t only fall on him. We both need to be bringing our A-game, date night wise.

Signs That You Are Interested In Him

Being a very bubbly, energetic person, it’s easy to tell if I’m having a good time. Long, thought out responses, participation in driving the conversation and initiating banter are always good signs. Open body language, leaning in, touching your forearms, playing with your clothes or my hair, and looking at your lips occasionally are universal signs of sexual attraction, so those are things to look out for. If I’m giggly and laughing a lot, you’re in.

On the other hand, if it seems like we’ve disconnected and I’m struggling to stay engaged with the conversation, giving you a lot of long pauses, or seem like I’m lost, or looking for something – maybe it’s time to change the topic to bring us back to common ground. I try hard to stay engaged with my paramour of the evening, so keeping my attention doesn’t tend to be difficult – even if it’s a topic I’m unfamiliar with, I’ll likely be curious, so as long as you’re willing to answer questions the two of us should be okay.


Talia Vice – Is the quintessential modern dream girl – well educated and eloquent, with a taste for adventure, rebellious heart, and a vibrant lust for life that seeps through in every interaction. She adores making new connections, making people laugh, exploring and creating new experiences, and engaging in passionate flirtations with new friends. Occasionally, she is a shameless tease. She takes great pleasure in her double life as a professional entertainer- and she invites you to come enjoy it with her.

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Talia Vice

Talia Vice is the quintessential modern dream girl - well educated and eloquent, with a taste for adventure, rebellious heart, and a vibrant lust for life that seeps through in every interaction. She adores making new connections, making people laugh, exploring and creating new experiences, and engaging in passionate flirtations with new friends. Occasionally, she is a shameless tease. She takes great pleasure in her double life as a professional entertainer- and she invites you to come enjoy it with her.

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