I’ve experimented in everything that I’ve been interested in trying. There are definitely somethings that I’ve never been interested in, and I’ve known that from the start. I’ve been asked to star in adult films in the past, which I turned down (I’d hate for a friend to accidentally Google me), and I’ve avoided any of the more…interesting…toilet play fantasies.
It seems that BDSM is a common gateway into exploring sexuality, which I tried early in my sexual journey. I learned quickly that there are a lot of men that fantasise about strong women in corsets with whips, and I remember dressing as a headmistress with a bamboo cane one night. Those things can cause some serious damage!
More often than not I get requests for threesomes from guys with other girls, and occasionally I get to enjoy a threesome with two guys (being spoilt is an indulgence of mine). I’ve explored exhibitionism, group sex, toy play, partner swapping, cosplay/uniform play, roleplaying, and “anonymous sex”.
I’m not sure there is a name for it, but “anonymous sex” included a very trusted friend organizing a playdate for me with someone I had never met before. I was blindfolded the entire time, he never spoke, and we rolled around on the bed for hours. Not a fantasy to try unless you trust whoever is setting it up for you, but it was very exciting!
What would I suggest to other couples? Well, to start off most with, no one knows you better than yourself. “Experts” like me can hold your hand and tell you that what you are feeling is natural, and that everything is ok, but you need to be honest with yourself, and your partner.
The most terrifying feeling you will have is the moment before you awkwardly blurt out, “I know I’m a heterosexual but I really just want to try a threesome with someone of the same sex because I think it would be hot, please don’t judge me I love you, what are we having for dinner? Hahaha, threesome? I didn’t say anything about a threesome…”
It will be awkward, and even if you both agree that you want to try something kinkier, you won’t know where to start. Adult films are terrible at teaching you how to explore your kinks, you’re better off having a frank discussion with someone at the local adult shop, someone online on a fetish site, or read a lot of articles. It won’t be as sexy as watching your favourite fetish film, but you’ll learn more about it and be more prepared when you try.
Trust me, if your kink is anal and you think you’ve watched enough videos that you can figure it out yourself, you may just scare your partner off it forever!
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