Some people enjoy watching football on television, other people like reading books, I enjoy sex. I enjoy other forms of entertainment of course, but sex is fun and is there to be enjoyed and explored.
I’ve heard people take sex very seriously, and it is a very personal experience that everyone has different views about, but when you’ve met someone who you connect with and you start laughing at each other’s jokes, the sex can be amazing.
Sex is fun, and it’s there to be enjoyed. Don’t feel pressured into doing it, but don’t be scared to embrace it either. Don’t feel guilty about getting home at 7am after a night out with someone who has pushed all of your buttons in the right way, be proud that you had an amazing experience (and don’t be scared to tell your Uber driver all about it, haha).
Meeting people, whether they are strangers over an app, friends at a bar, or even if you’ve organised a meeting with a professional, it’s all about making connections. Smile, laugh, tell stories, and get to know each other. If you know each other, you’re more in sync with who they are, what they are about, and that definitely transfers into the bedroom.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been no stranger to a crazy night out screaming over loud music at some sexy guy before giving up and just kissing him. There are many ways you can make a connection, with the way you both dance, that look you swap from across the room; every little thing lets you know what a person is like.
Trust your feelings when you meet someone, don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do, and enjoy yourself. Many women I know don’t take the time to feel liberated with their sexuality, that they will be branded as cheap, or slutty, if they want sex. Sex is natural and nothing to be ashamed about.
Be honest with yourself, be honest with other people. Don’t be afraid of your fantasies and fetishes (if they don’t hurt anyone), and if you’re curious to try something out, there are so many people you can talk to about them these days. God bless the internet!
Most Memorable Sexual Experience
I wasn’t always this open about sex, and for many years I was terrified to try anything different or adventurous. One day I met someone who made me feel safe, and encouraged me to explore what I wanted, rather than pushing his own “sexual agenda”. It felt liberating to talk about sex and not having anyone looking at me like I was some kind of pervert. To this day I remember how scared I was doing things that now just seem so, natural?
I never saw myself as being an object of sexual attention growing up; in fact I had very few boyfriends at school. But now I found myself brave enough to attend a swingers party with my new friend, and I remember being so terrified and thinking that I was fat, ugly, the usual things that go through your head.
But for the first time, I was in a space where people were honest, open and willing to explore. I felt like a kid in a candy shop with so many people approaching me, though to this day I don’t remember the sex, but I do remember how amazing it felt to be wanted.
Since then I’ve had a lot of sexual experiences, many of them have been amazing, but the one thing that sticks in my head is that first party. The way I felt welcome, how we connected, and how everyone got along. Each memorable sexual experience since then, whether it was with a man or a woman (or several at the same time) was special because we took the time to know each other and didn’t rush into anything.
Aside from that, there was this threesome in Vegas I had with two men….wow. Sometimes you just get lucky!
Things Men Don’t Get!
Guys love sex, we get it. Sometimes I think that guys are expecting us girls to lay them on the bed, take off their pants, do a sexy little tease, and then tell them that we’re not interested anymore. Men can treat sex like a race, they rush into it because they think that their partner will suddenly cut off their “sex privileges” and leave them high-and-dry.
Either that or the guy is amazed he’s even there, and decides he’s going to make the most of the situation as fast as possible. There’s a difference between passion and urgency, so just relax guys! If your partner is standing at the end of the bed shaking a little booty at you from beneath a tiny skirt, enjoy the moment. The tease is a part of it, and it makes us feel sexy too.
One typical question I get from guys is: “Did you orgasm?” Men can think that they’ve not pleased me, or done their job, if I’ve not had an orgasm. Perhaps they feel that they’re not very good in bed? But in truth, sometimes we girls just don’t orgasm during sex. Maybe it’s performance anxiety or perhaps we only orgasm in particular ways, but that doesn’t mean we don’t like sex.
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