Getting married!! You already have butterflies in your stomach. As the day progresses, the anxiety well starts to build up; more if you have not known your husband or wife for long before the wedding. The wedding night or first night is the most significant period in the couple’s life, what happens that night will be imprinted in your mind lifelong. So don’t rush.
Sex can happen or cannot, so go with an open mind. It’s more important to relax in each others company and to control your nervousness. Try and connect emotionally first rather than get physical. The husband should always make the first move and give hints to his partner that he is getting aroused in her presence and politely and passionately convince her that you will not cause her any pain.
It’s very easy for couples to get excited on their first night even if they have known each other for a long time. The trick here is to keep it slow, take time to understand each others body. Kissing, hugging, and fondling each other should be a kick start to have wonderful sex on your first night. Husbands should be more patient, unselfish and in control to satisfy his wife. Being pushy on the first night could lead to repulsion.
The first night act is not only the husband’s responsibility, but the wife also needs to be actively involved in it. Women feel shy in opening up about their body and feelings and many times resist having sex on their first night. These days girls are becoming more matured and listen to their body and don’t consider having sex as a mere duty to please their husbands, but would like to be a part of it. Exercising regularly and stretching the pelvic muscles will help reduce pain on the first night.
Taking a shower together, it will help you open up and also relax in each others company. It’s advisable to keep the lights off and have candles lit all around to create that perfect atmosphere and to explore each others body. Proceed once you are comfortable, step by step, which will build a great bond of trust and understanding. Husbands should understand his wife’s fear of having sex for the first time; it can only be less painful if there is good intense foreplay involved. At times you can also use artificial lubricants to relieve pain. After all it’s how much you love your wife and care about her.
It’s not necessary that you end up having an intercourse on the first night. You can try giving your partner a massage to relieve the pressure and when the time is right make your next move. There are couples who would like to take some time, just enjoy foreplay and sleep naked in each other arms till passion takes over them completely, because this is not the only night you are spending together, your first night will determine the pleasure level for all the coming years.
Pratibha Soni, an author, is passionate writer of health fitness and fashion trends. She has also researched extensively on health and fitness which is very useful in today’s busy life. She can be contacted at http://www.naughtyme.in/blog/
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