I am afraid to ask my partner about his sexual fantasies for fear that it might turn out to be something I won’t accept or approve of, although a part of me is curious to find out. Should I just avoid this topic forever?
If the relationship is healthy then have no fear. Since your partner’s sexual fantasies are on your mind, be open minded to discuss it. Make it fun, and try discussing a few general fantasies. Make the situation comfortable by admitting some of your own fantasies.
I be you not only, desire to know some, but also, desire to share some of your fantasies. Afterwards, continue the conversation and admit the things which are limits to you and the things you are willing to engage.
Try back and forth sexting (texting using sensual and sexual innuendos, and provocative language or sexually explicit images), to increase the flow of sexual energy and anticipation. By then it should open the gate of shared information on sexual fantasies.
Then you won’t have to remain curious and you both can start to explore new fantasies together. Isn’t that the end game, to know each others’ fantasies and create fantasies as lovers.
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Ms. Angela Reneé Washington, an International certified Sex Educator, Sex Expert, Sexuality Advocate and Relationship Counselor specializing in creating a balance of life, love, spirit and sex.
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