My husband and I have been discussing about introducing cuckoldry into our relationship. However, if we do, is there no turning back once we start?
No question that introducing cuckoldry in any relationship is not something to be done lightly; you are justifiably concerned about acting on this.
On an emotional level there is indeed “no turning back” once the wife has exercised her rights as a cuckoldress. This is why communication is vital before anything is done and after.
First it is important for both the husband and wife to talk through all of their desires, fantasies, and fears. It sometimes helps to write things down and even draw up a cuckold-contract. This would be a semi-formal agreement that lists boundaries, expectations, rules and requirements for each party.
This type of document also documents the husband’s willingness to be his wife’s cuckold.
Before the wife does anything, the couple should do various “exercises” together to prepare them both for the real thing. One exercise involves using a dildo or other sex toy together, but do so in a way that will be more psychologically challenging for the husband.
To do this, the wife would purchase or pick-out a dildo she likes and give it the name of a man she knows that she find attractive – “Bill”. Then when she is in the mood she should tell her husband that she needs “Bill” to fuck her one evening. After some foreplay with her husband she should take out “Bill” and use it on herself while saying things like “Oh Bill you make me feel like a real woman”. Over the course of days, weeks or months this exercise should be repeated many times and each time, the wife should say things as she enjoys “Bill” that are more intense and/or humiliating for her husband to hear. Eventually the wife should have her husband use the dildo on her while giving her oral sex.
The wife’s first extra-marital experience is an important one and finding the right man for this can be difficult. For the first-time it is often advisable that the husband not be present as the situation might be too intense for him and his presence would inhibit or spoil things for the wife.
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Steve is a middle-aged husband and father living in the northern US. By day he works as a technical analyst/project manager for a large company by night he explores the depths of alternative sexual lifestyles – mostly involve female-led relations.
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