I like to have sex with my girlfriend during her period, but have yet to let her know about this fantasy of mine. Does it make me weird and is it a fetish?
If you do a search online for “blood hounds” you might stumble upon different articles and forums discussing the experience of receiving sexual pleasure from having sex with a partner who is on their period. There are apparently whole groups of (mostly) men who enjoy this experience or even specifically “seek out” women who are on their periods to have sex with them.
So you ask “does it make me weird?” and I would say “yeah, maybe!” but only because this is not considered in our current society to be a totally generic, “normal” turn-on, which essentially makes it a fetish. That being said, there are apparently many other weirdos out there enjoying this fetish as we speak!
A side note to this conversation is the issue of safety since, when blood is involved, risk for disease transmission increases greatly. So, make sure you have both been tested, are knowledgeable of each other’s health status, and acknowledge the risk of genital, skin, and mouth contact with blood and the possibility of ingesting blood if oral sex is involved.
If you want to talk about this particular fetish with your girlfriend (which I think you should), I would approach it by asking her if she is comfortable having sex while she is menstruating. Find out where her comfort lies first and then tailor your conversation towards acknowledging your interest and your desire.
You can make a judgement about how you want to frame it – telling her you are “turned on” by having sex with her while she is on her period may sound more comfortable then saying you have “a fetish.” Once consent has been established and risks have been acknowledged, enjoy!
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Elizabeth is a Clinical Psychologist and psychotherapist in Washington State. She provides therapy and consultation to individuals and couples and is working to become an AASECT-certified Sex Therapist. Her primary interests are romantic and sexual relationships, sexual empowerment and education, the dynamics of communication, and reducing stigma around issues of sexuality and mental health. Get in touch with Elizabeth via email at email@example.com.
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