Occasionally my body just sort of skips over the actual orgasm. I get excited, I feel myself getting closer and closer and then all of a sudden I no longer feel excited. It is a bit of a let-down because orgasms do feel so amazing. I have had this happen while masturbating (which is really confusing because I am obviously doing what I like) or with a partner. But, I can get to orgasm in so many different ways; so I just take a break for a moment and go for it again (and am usually successful).
I most definitely am capable of multiple orgasms. I really don’t need any recovery time between orgasms. Just like a man’s penis can be extra sensitive after they orgasm, my clitoris is incredibly sensitive. I can go again right away, I just prefer to give my clitoris a small break. That being said, there are times that it is nice to just bask in the feelings after a really strong orgasm.
In the last couple of years, I got into BDSM with a partner. I have been able to have multiple orgasms for as long as I can remember. But it was not until this relationship that I discovered how many orgasms I can really have when I just relax and let my body do its thing. I believe this is partially due to the level of trust we shared. I had no fear of my body doing weird things. I turned my body over to him and the results were phenomenal. I have had so many orgasms that I lost count; I eventually fell asleep exhausted and dehydrated.
I cannot tell you how many times I have heard a woman say “I cannot get off during oral sex, I’m too scared that I’ll pass gas or something horrible”. Have I done that? Absolutely, and I have never had a man get upset or make a big deal about it. The typical response has been “it is super sexy how much you get into it”! You have to relax, listen to your body and allow yourself to feel the pleasure.
What the men don’t get about orgasms
I think the biggest thing men don’t seem to understand is that we don’t all reach orgasm the same way. Some ladies require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, some can reach orgasm by just g-spot stimulation. Some lucky ladies (like myself) can get off by nipple stimulation. I have had partners that were “trained”, so to speak, by their previous partner. They do the same thing over and over again whether or not it is working.
My best advice for men is to listen to the woman they are with. Ask questions if she does not seem to be responding to what you are doing. If she moans or trembles, explore what you are doing more. Let her know that you care about her pleasure and find it sexy when she is enjoying herself.
I am Staci, an independent escort from Portland, Oregon. But I like to think of myself as more of a no-strings girlfriend. I grew up in a conservative (read: sexually repressed) small town environment. I moved to the city, found my sexuality and never looked back! Click on the links in my profile to visit my website and Twitter!
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