I grew up in a household that did not talk about sex. My Birds and Bees discussion with my mom went something like “When mommies and daddies love each other, they do things in their bedroom that kids don’t need to see.” and the rest was left up to sex education at school. I don’t know about where you all grew up, but they definitely didn’t discuss orgasms in our sex-education.
That being said, I am sure I had my first orgasm at a pretty young age, probably in elementary school. I did not know I was having orgasms at the time, but I knew that touching myself felt good and it helped me relax. In high school, I started reading magazines that talked about masturbation, finding your g-spot and orgasms. I started exploring myself more and discovering different ways that I could reach climax both alone and with a partner.
I did not realize until my mid-twenties that there are women in the world that have never had an orgasm. I cannot imagine. The more orgasms I have, the more orgasms I want to have.
How it feels during a build up to an orgasm and the eventual climax
I do not know if there is anything I can equate an orgasm to or a great way to specifically describe it. I even have different types or levels of orgasm depending on what type of stimulation I am getting. (I can reach climax enough ways to write a whole article on.) But, I guess the best place to start my description is in getting turned on. So many things turn me on! Sometimes a commercial on TV does it, a memory of a past sexual experience, or even the feel of a certain fabric against my skin.
When I start to get turned on I feel myself becoming wet, sometimes to the point of dripping. I feel a sort of tingle or tickle in my clitoris, like it is just begging for attention. Externally my clitoris goes from being indiscernible to becoming engorged, making it really easy to find. Typically my nipples harden and go from being ticklish to feeling pleasurable when touched.
As I am stimulated, I can feel my heart rate rising. I have a hard time keeping my eyes open and I cannot concentrate on anything but how good I am feeling. All of my muscles begin to tense up. When I get really close to orgasm I can feel my pelvic muscles start to twitch; usually slowly at first, small and random. The twitches become more frequent and increase in strength. If I am reaching orgasm by clitoral stimulation, the feeling of the rubbing on my clit can feel overwhelming; I almost want it to stop but I want so bad to reach climax.
When I do reach climax, all of my pelvic muscles contract in quick waves, my legs tremble, my eyes literally roll back in my head, and I experience an intense sense of euphoria. This can last just a couple of seconds or considerably longer depending on the amount of build-up and the continuation of stimulation as I reach climax.
After I reach climax I feel very relaxed. Almost like the feeling after a great massage or even a good meditation session. My brain is clear, my muscles relaxed and I just want to snuggle and go to sleep. Or, I just want to have another orgasm.
I am Staci, an independent escort from Portland, Oregon. But I like to think of myself as more of a no-strings girlfriend. I grew up in a conservative (read: sexually repressed) small town environment. I moved to the city, found my sexuality and never looked back! Click on the links in my profile to visit my website and Twitter!
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