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Basic rules for handcuffs to make your play kinky and safe

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Basic rules for handcuffs to make your play kinky and safe

Safety first is the law for playing with hand-cuffs. Hand-cuffs are a beginner’s toy in restraint. It is an easy accessible toy; hand-cuffs sell at the mall at Spencer; the ARMY surplus store and adult store. You can grab some fluffy ones or get more real with hardware. The steel ones can be dangerous. Be aware hand-cuffs are not to be taken for granted. If you use and or prefer the novelty kind or the type you buy at the adult toy store, [which can be easily broken with a little force or wiggle] you may be a bit safer; yet all items to restrain require safety. Perhaps you prefer the ones made of steel which I recommend.

Well, even the ones that are fluffy n’ cute, have a purpose, but this article is not for you. This is for the serious hand-cuff restraint user. For someone who may want to venture past role-play and into a more rough scenario. If you are in some type of law enforcement, and have the advantage of the real deal, and the knowledge and safety of use — then you are ahead of the game. If you’re a beginner, novice, curious and occasional user of real hand-cuffs, listen up.

Here are the basic rules:

1. When using hand-cuffs, first rule of thumb. Receive FULL consent to restraint and put your partner in hand-cuffs [bondage] or what legally may be addressed as captivity.

2. Always have the KEY somewhere safe and sound. NO WHERE it can fall to floor, or in between crevices and be hard to find or retrieve.

3. Make sure the key works before use by checking it beforehand with the lock.

4. Keep handcuffs at a position and placement that will not cause lack of blood flow, or irritate the skin or blood vessels around the wrist; unless of course this was what you were going for. I do not recommend cutting off blood circulation to anyone. Bad idea.

5. Be aware. Have a verbal or tactile cue which will alert the need to remove the cuffs immediately. Sometimes, talking may be restricted or ignored, if you are in the moment, employ a gesture or body movement which indicates you instantly want the cuffs off.

Keep in mind, it is usually smart to know someone’s medical history — i.e., if they have any blood clotting issues or other medical issues which may hinder the enjoyment of the process and become potentially life threatening. Understandably, this may have been a first time or a one-night stand situation, and my suggestion, is to do a quick inventory. Say something like: “this won’t cause you to fall-out or have major health issues,” type of question before you ensue. Usually there is some interaction that causes the cuffs to move a bit — I mean you did put them on for a reason — yes? Be aware.

Take in account, that the person being restraint may need some help adjusting them or perhaps the cuffs may need to be adjusted for tightness. Stay alert of the cuffs enough to keep the person from permanent injury or scars. It is easy to chip or fracture the small bones in your wrist by applying to much force. If you are a beginner, try not to be too eager and make long lasting mistakes like fracturing your partner’s bones. In addition, make sure you are not allergic to steel or the material the cuffs are made of. If you are not allergic, I recommend licking the cuffs, it’s OK… adds to the eroticism.

Possibly you are the more adventurous type, even gagging with the cuffs; but this is highly not recommended; especially for a novice. Think about teeth cracks and high dental bills. Be cognizant of cutting the wrist or arms from friction and any other body part that may get damaged in all the rough action. Please understand, when using hand-cuffs you are putting your partner in restraint and bondage or captivity.

With that being said, being restrained or bondaged by any device including hand-cuffs carries legal ramifications in most states. Check yours to be sure what laws are in place for using restraints.  NUMBER 1 RULE — ask to play.

Consent is mandatory and if you do not have it; then all restraint play is totally off the table and illegal to boot. As an added precaution, if the time frame or duration is longer than it takes to get-off [yes, I mean, orgasm], check the wrist for injury and the blood flow periodically.

Last but not least, if someone has a psychological or mental trauma using restraints, it’s a good idea to make sure their mental state of mind can deal with being in restraint and or in hand-cuffs. When in question, err with caution and use the fluffy cute ones instead. If there are signs someone is uncomfortable by their body or verbal communication, at this time, it would be wise to UN-cuff them and try something less restrictive. The main point to be taken here is be safe, not sorry.

Safety and consent first. Go play.


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Angela Washington

Ms. Angela Reneé Washington, an International certified Sex Educator, Sex Expert, Sexuality Advocate and Relationship Counselor specializing in creating a balance of life, love, spirit and sex. She is the creator of Living Loving Initiative Systems, L.L.C., (LLIS) a comprehensive educational,  advocacy and counseling entity funded by self investment, entrepreneurial design and grass roots management.

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