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Intro Sessions to BDSM – Are you ready to step into the world of BDSM?

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Intro Sessions to BDSM – Are you ready to step into the world of BDSM?

Ever wondered how it will feel to submit yourself? Or if you’re unsure of what to ask for when contacting a dominatrix? Worry no further. Mistress Jadis is a professional dominatrix based in Sydney, Australia and has a wide variety of interests which includes Corporal Punishment, Cock & Ball Torture and Play Piercing. One of her specialties and favorite activities however, is Intro Sessions for new players. Conducting her sessions from one of the best equipped dungeons in Australia, we ask Mistress Jadis more about Intro Sessions and what new players should know before entering the world of BDSM.

Why is Intro Sessions one of your favorite activities?

I love intro sessions because I love intensity. While the level of play in many intro sessions is not heavy the intensity of the experience and the emotions involved often can be. For many subs that come to me for an intro session it’s their first step toward bringing what can often be years of fantasy into reality.

If one is curious about trying it out, how can they get started?

Think about what attracts you to this experience and what you’d like to get out of it. What activities are you keen to try? How do you want to feel? What are your limits?

I’d also recommend that new subs contemplating a first session do some research both into BDSM in general and in particular the activities that interest them. Quality consent is informed consent.

Your next step is finding a Professional Dominant to play with. Most quality practitioners will have their own website and google will help you to find someone in your area. Take the time to browse the sites of a few different Professional Dominants. Don’t just look at the pictures. Take the time to read about their interests, limits and facilities. Many professional kinksters also blog, have reviews and have extensive social media presences. These can be a valuable way to get a feel for skill level and personality fit.

Many professional perverts will detail how they prefer to be contacted on their sites. When you feel ready to enquire about a booking be sure to be polite, concise and respectful in your approach. Many of us are quite selective in who we see.

What happens if a new player is unsure of what they want?

Most quality professional dominants will be able to put together an intro session comprising popular activities. You and they will then be able to assess what worked and what didn’t.

Intro sessions can sometimes yield surprises. Sometimes things that seemed like super hot ideas don’t translate well to reality. Conversely things that were not super appealing can turn out to be really enjoyable in practice.

My preference is always that the sub have done enough research to have at least an idea of their potential interests. Kink is quite a broad field so it does help to at least have a starting point.

Describe a typical session for a new player and what they can expect at your intro session.

There really is no typical session. Each session is tailored to incorporate expressed interests and limits.

Going into an intro session your expectation should be that the play will be conducted safely, in a clean environment and that your limits will be respected.

What are some things new players should know and prepare themselves before trying out?

It’s important to understand that the relationship between you and the kink provider that you see is a professional one. While what happens in session is intimate and real, the relationship is a boundaried one for valid reasons. This protects you as well as your provider. Respecting the time and privacy of your kink professional is essential.

Both parties will enjoy the time spent in the dungeon more if you arrive clean and well groomed. I always tell slaves to prepare for a session as they would prepare for a hot date.

The other thing to consider is sub drop. Intense experiences can stir up a lot of endorphins which can leave you feeling a bit ordinary in the days or hours following the session. If you’re feeling a bit tired, or depressed after play recognising that sub drop is a thing and taking good care of yourself helps a lot. I let slaves coming to me for an intro know that they can email me to debrief if needs be.

Can you tell us more about the dungeon where your sessions are done and the equipment available?

My sessions are conducted from Mistress Servalan’s Carisbrook dungeon. It’s a large, open plan warehouse with themed areas – quite a unique playspace. We have a huge main dungeon, a school room, a cross dressing room, a mirrored sling room and a rubber themed area. As well as all the usual toys we have an impressive selection of bondage furniture – some custom and many from Fetters, including an inversion rack and our beloved “Wheel of Misfortune”. We also have a cell which is often utilised in overnight sessions, a dog box (which can also be used for sensory deprivation), a standing cage and a suspendable ball cage.


 

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Mistress Jadis

Based in Sydney, Australia Mistress Jadis bases her domination philosophy around providing an opportunity to serve rather than providing “services”. Mistress Jadis delights in authentic play and loves to take her slaves to the next level of submission. Her style blends compassion with cruelty and control. Capricious and naturally kinky by nature those lucky enough to serve her know that she takes great pleasure in her sessions.

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