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Sexual Expectations: Those Magic Numbers

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Sexual Expectations: Those Magic Numbers

Countless times I have heard my male friends, followed by columns and articles stating about men wrestling with the illusion that there is some “magic member number”. I suppose women have had some concerns as well, since the American Society of Plastic Surgeons advised in 2013, breast augmentations, also known as breast implant plastic surgery was at an increase. The year’s statistics totaled an all year high overall of 313,327 for breast enhancements for the 2013 year. This is a 37% increase over the last 10 years. However, it wasn’t the most wanted surgery, believe it or not. Liposuction was at the top of the list, according to the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ASAPS), there was a 16% increase, and over one billion dollars spent nationwide for liposuction. Since we are looking at the numbers, let me go ahead and make the distinction that women, forgoing liposuction first, for breast augmentation, still spent over 10.3 million, which according to the ASPS, was 90.6% of the total expenditure. On the other side of the coin, men spent more than 1 million for the most wanted procedure of liposuction, and the wants and needs of both sexes are expected to continue to rise in the 2014 year as well. It seems there is something to the “number” after all. It seems that it is not just women who are struggling with vanity, but men as well. Men are also struggling with the concept of insecurity in size. However, it does seem to be effecting masculinity in a slightly different way as men are not quite ready to opt for penile implants just yet. So there is some truth to the magic number theory; it does effect both sexes, just not to the extremes.


There also is another “in common factor” that may keep men from finding out that is there is no “magic number”. In actual fact, there is no “one” number for each situation. The statistics show that approximately 41,464 women had their augmentations removed for aesthetic reasons. Therefore, what women considered the wrong number, changed at a heavy cost to their personal and financial wellbeing, to a more “right” number. Yet after what would be, I suppose, a reasonable amount of time, the right number was deemed the wrong number once again. Therefore, the search began once more, and so does the augmentation process. There are no statistics on the aesthetics of penile implant reversal as of yet, but I am sure we will see some at one point or another. It just seems there has to be an easier way. As a matter of fact, there is. Depending on the exercise, there is something both men and women can do to contribute to “sizing up” the situation on what your partner needs. These are what you focus on, not what is the “magic” number? I understand when you are in the gym, you may have to vary your routine, as you have to make use of your time and the available equipment. As with either of these activities, the main focus should be on enjoyment, not equipment.

It’s understandable how this could be worrisome to both sexes. Women want more, men want more but yet what they want are really two different things. However, both can achieve what they want by committing themselves to the same exercise. Yes ladies, it’s the kegels; but kegels aren’t just for you, they are for your partner too. For the ladies, the pelvic floor makes those muscles strong, offering a well-positioned vault. For men, the stronger the pelvic floor muscles, the longer and the harder the erection. The penis receives better blood flow, providing a better angle, preventing any possibility of premature ejaculation. As a matter of fact, a man with rehearsed kegels can attain multiple orgasms. Therefore, if you are worried you may not have what it takes, not to worry. Not only will you have what it takes, you will have it, have it stronger, and for a longer period of time—multiple times. So, find yourself a comfortable pace; about three times a day. Practice your kegels and you will not have to be concerned about any performance issues. The only thing you will need to worry about is making sure your partner can keep up. Any number worries you may have had can go by the way-side, unless it’s the counting of sheep through the night.

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Brenda Stapleton

Brenda Stapleton is a self-employed Freelance Editor/Writer from Louisiana, who writes while she travels throughout the Unites States. She currently resides in Tennessee. She possesses a Bachelor’s and Master’s Degree in Behavioral Sciences, Nursing Education at the Undergraduate Level, and Education with an ELA specialty, and Technical Communication and Writing at the graduate level. She has certified as a Personal Trainer, and is currently working towards her certifications as a Health Coach with a specialty in Sexual Health Education. With Advanced Certifications in Health, her directive is to gain a better understanding of pharmaceutical related patterns, to enable her to continue her work with health care professionals.



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