‘What happens to humans who never get touched?’
‘How long can I live without human affection?’
‘What happens when people are not touched by other people?’
How do these statements make you feel? They make me feel sad. My heart sinks each time I read them. What makes my heart sink even further is that these statements are the most used search terms that take people to my blog over at mattatlotus.com.
Why are people searching for these? What is it that is lacking in society today that results in human beings—our brothers and sisters—sitting alone at home perusing the internet to find out what happens if they never get touched?
The tagline on my website reads: ‘because everybody needs to be held’ and there is an obvious reason for this. This statement lets people know that I work differently. Sure, it is about the sex, of course it is. Yes, it is also about exploring our darker nature together but it is, absolutely and categorically about making love too. My clients are my clients. I do not feel any unnecessary emotional attachment to them after the session is over. This is simply not healthy or helpful to either of us. I do, however, feel a sense of care, high regard and yes, affection towards whomever it is I am working with at any given time. The above search terms should tell you just why my work has evolved in this way and also, I hope, this will encourage you to get out there and start hugging!
Before you do that, let me just remind you of something very important about us human beings: we are interdependent by nature. We need each other to carry out certain tasks and we rely on our interconnectedness to go about our daily lives. What would we do if the refuse workers forgot to collect our rubbish? Where would we be if the key holder to our offices couldn’t be bothered to turn up at work? What would happen if the teachers didn’t arrive at school each day? Disease. Poor profits. Stupid children. To name just three examples of how one apparently unrelated event or absence can have a negative impact on another. Now, let’s start hugging …
There was some research done many years ago on the human touch and the need for human affection. I won’t go into the details here because you are here on SimplySxy for a reason and I’m damn sure being blinded by statistics isn’t it, but I will tell you this: the findings showed that we do need human affection, physical touch and support in order to feel happy. We do need each other so that our bodies and minds work properly.
When you have sex, your endorphins (happy chemicals) rush around your body and your serotonin (more happy chemicals) levels rise. These make you feel better. It really is that simple … and sexy … SimplySxy … sorry couldn’t resist but let’s be serious for a moment. When we don’t have sex, the opposite happens and when we are not being touched at all … we’re fucked.
I speak from experience and if you take a look at my blog at some point, or if you stick around here in the weeks to come I will tell you all about it. I am a sex worker for a reason. You do the job you do for a reason. I am sure we are both so very good at our jobs for reasons! Everything, everything dear reader, is connected. So … Please, please and a final big please: get yourself out there, in the real world and make some friends, meet some lovers, make love to a whore and really, really connect with someone. If you are all alone, be brave, be bold and be confident in the knowledge that it isn’t just you. There are others in the same boat of loneliness and that means … drum roll please: that you’re not alone at all!
There is something else that I say on my website and I am going to say it to you here too. Partly, I want to apologise for repeating it, I don’t really like to repeat content across my platforms but this one really is the exception and you will see it on my website, on my blog and now here, on SimplySxy:
Psst! You, yes you! Lean in, are you leaning? Listen closely. Are you listening? I want you to know something: I want you to know that whoever you are, wherever you are from, no matter where on the planet you currently reside, irrelevant of your spiritual/political/religious/social beliefs, inclusive of your gender/sexuality/colour/background and fully embracing of every aspect of yourself that makes you you—You. Are. Loved.
Yes, you are.
BIG! HUGE! GINORMOUS Hug!
Matt xXx
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